“The Biggest Lie In The History Of Christianity”

I offer to you a rough summary of this outstanding book’s principal points after their page numbers for quick reference. I do have copies available for $3. This book written and released two years ago is now quite cunningly and very candidly appropriately focused spot-on discerning the state of the union for Christianity as practiced the past several decades in North America and Western Europe, especially now as many of us are living in a “lock-down” mode, that terminology reflecting multiple possible  definitions for Jesus followers as detailed by the author.

I refrained from editorial liberty or license as the book speaks clearly and simply. The exceptions to that are on page 73 where I reworded a sentence for clarity. Numerous times I added comments in parentheses, like adding the adjective “authentic” to the word “Christian” near the end of the book to distinguish such from merely “culturally practicing” or perhaps better understood, as “exhibiting a form of Christianity though perhaps not possessing the substance of the faith. See II Tim 3: 5 “Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.” I also added nine Biblical passages supporting our admonition to living in holiness in the P 52 section after which I included the words to the hymn “Take Time to be Holy” and the unique accounts of two men being faithful in their holy moments.

Please understand highlighting the key points from this book’s 113 pages to merely seven typewritten is not without editing perils. I trust my chosen key points may encourage you to read the book for yourself! Thanks for the opportunity to share this with you but the real thanks goes to Matthew Kelly who was obedient in his holy moment to share his revelations on paper with us.

I also must share with you that I purchased this book nearly a year ago and it stood in my bookcase until this past Sunday (Actually this was written in May 2020) and when Loretta went to get it, she couldn’t see it. But it was on my library list so the second look revealed it was hidden behind the bookcase trim strip because it was so thin.  I must admit I’ve been nudged for the past month or two that I really needed to read this book. Finally, Saturday while working in the garden, I just spoke out loud and said “OK OK then, I will read it tomorrow!” And so after church Sunday, and a luxurious hour nap, I began the journey and three hours later, finished The Biggest Lie In The History Of Christianity. Simply timing; for indeed such a time, or Holy Moment as this! And as Matthew Kelly believes, our “transformation” to authenticity to institute our “Holy Moments” will transform us, as well as those in our sphere of influence, eventually the Church and indeed, the world… again even!

Perhaps now Matthew should write a sequel about “Fear not” since fear is escalating among so many today. After all, it is said the KJV has 103 “Fear nots” and the word “fear” is used over 500 times. In the event Matthew Kelly passes on writing the “fear book,” may I recommend you then read John Bevere’s “The Fear of the Lord: Discover the Key to Intimately Knowing God” by positioning your heart to receive answers, by promising divine protection, by providing clarity and direction, and by producing legacies, honor and a fulfilled life.

It is past time we begin! (And now on New Years Eve 2020, it is remarkable that I found my two draft posts from last May. Just yesterday I commented to my cousin Loretta that I had four posts ready but I was not sure the time was right yet for their release! And just now I discovered I had two more draft posts ready to publish! And when I read them, I was compelled to release Part One tonight on the eve of 2021 and Part Two soon thereafter)

Here is my attempt to condense a great book, “The Biggest Lie….

P 12: the foundational question is how long do you want to be happy for? If only for a couple hours, take a nap…. We yearn for long term happiness, a lasting happiness, and when it really comes down to it, that itch is a yearning for JOY, which transcends simple happiness.

P 15: …the authentic person acknowledges that he is not perfect. He is open, honest, and vulnerable about his imperfections and is certainly not using them as excuses to engage in self-destructive behavior or behavior that negatively impacts others.

P 16: I am never happy when I pretend to be someone I’m not… The birth of social media has put this pretending on steroids!

P21: The five biggest lies in the history of Christianity to provide the context for the biggest single lie are 1.) Jesus didn’t exist; 2.) The Resurrection is a Myth; 3.) Christianity Preys on the Weak & Ignorant; 4.) Christianity is Anti-Intellectual and Anti-Scientific & 5.) Christianity is Anti-Sex.

P 32: The biggest lie of all is that “Holiness is not possible.” This lie is diabolical and evil, but brilliant nonetheless. It is astounding that just one lie can neutralize the majority of Christians. This one lie is largely, if not primarily responsible, for ushering in the post-Christian modern era throughout Western civilization. The fact the word holiness has disappeared from out dialogue is proof we consider it either irrelevant or unattainable.

P36: “A Holy Moment (HM) is a moment when you are being the person God created you to be, and you are doing what you believe God is calling you to do in that moment”. It is an instance where you set aside self-interest, personal desire, and what you feel like doing or would rather be doing, and embrace what you believe will bring the most good to the most people in that moment.”

P 38: John Keats points out: “A thing of beauty is a joy forever: Its loveliness increases; it will never pass into nothingness.” So it is with one single Holy Moment (HM)! One single HM is a thing of beauty. Its loveliness increases. It will never pass into nothingness.

P40: God’s grace is needed to create a HM. This is not a self-empowerment thing. HM’s are created with God’s grace. God will never deny you the grace needed to create a HM.

P 52: Holy Moments are possible. Holiness is possible. This is a beautiful truth and truth animates us. This is also the very will of God, In Thessalonians 4:3 we read “This is the will of God, that you be holy.” Don’t let yourself be neutralized by the biggest lie in the history of Christianity. Reject that lie every day, and embrace every Holy Moment that comes your way.  

I Cor 3:16-17 “Know ye not that ye are the temple of God…..for the temple of God is holy , which temple ye are.”

Eph 1:4 “Accordingly as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love.

Col 1:21-22 “..yet hath he now reconciled ….through death to present you holy and unblameable and unreprovable in his sight:”

Col 3:12 “Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering;”

II Tim 1:9 “Who hath saved us, and called us with a holy calling, not according to our works, but according to his own purpose and grace..”

Luke 1:74-75 “..that we being delivered out of the hand of our enemies might serve him without fear, in holiness and righteousness before him, all the days of our life.”

Rom 6: 22 “But now being made free from sin and become servants to God, ye have your fruit unto holiness, and the end everlasting life.”

II Cor 7:1 “Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.

Eph 4:23-24 “And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.”

Fear Not

I am finding this 2020 Advent providing me a unique perspective with a depth not usually associated with this season, being perhaps the only positive influence possibly exerted by the pandemic and the election. After listening to the Advent message today, I realize it is now considerably easier to identify with the plight of the children of Israel who certainly had their fill of tyranny under Roman rule while dreaming of being delivered from their present and future continuing oppression. But at least they clearly knew who their oppressors were! Which is more than many of us tonight either know or are willing to admit.  

But never fear. This is the very season that Christians have for centuries throughout all sorts of unrest, calamities, disasters, uprisings, wars, depressions, etc., simply set aside all the bad news seeking to over whelm them, and choose rather to concentrate on the birth of Jesus, the Jewish Messiah and Savior to the Gentiles.

Recently in a letter to two young intellectuals quite comfortable with the globalists agenda to perform a Re-Set, I took the time to write out Chapter Three from II Peter from the Message version.

“My dear friends, this is now the second time I’ve written to you, both letters reminders to hold your minds in a state of undistracted attention. Keep in mind what the holy prophets said, and the command of  our Master and Savior that was passed by your apostles.

First off, you need to know that in the last days, mockers are going to have a heyday. Reducing everything to the level of their puny feelings, they’ll mock, “So what’s happening to the promise of his Coming? Our ancestors are dead and buried, and everything is going on just as it has from the first day of creation. Nothing’s changed.”

They conveniently forget that long ago all the galaxies and this very planet were brought into existence out of watery chaos by God’s word. Then God’s word brought back the chaos in a flood that destroyed the world. The current galaxies and earth are fuel for the final fire. God is poised, ready to speak his word again, ready to the give the signal for the judgement and destruction of the desecrating skeptics.

The Day the Sky Will Collapse

But when the Day of God’s Judgement does come, it will be unannounced, like a thief. The sky will collapse with a thunderous bang, everything disintegrating in a huge conflagration, earth, and all its works exposed to the scrutiny of Judgement.

Since everything here today might be gone tomorrow, do you see how essential it is to live a holy life? Daily expect the Day of God, eager for its arrival. The galaxies will burn up and the elements melt down that day – but we’ll barely notice. We’ll be looking the other way, ready for the promised new heavens and the promised new earth, all landscaped with righteousness.

So, my dear friends, since this is what you have to look forward to, do your very best to be found living at your best, in purity and peace. Interpret our Master’s patient restraint for what it is: Salvation. Our good brother Paul, who was given much wisdom on these matters, refers to this in all his letters, and has written you essentially the same thing. Some things Paul writes are difficult to understand. Irresponsible people who don’t know what they are talking about twist them every which way. They do it to the rest of the Scriptures, too, destroying themselves as they do it.

But you, friends, are well warned. Be on guard lest you lose your footing, and get swept off your feet by these lawless loose-talking teachers. Grow in grace and understanding of our master and Savior, Jesus Christ.”

II Peter 3:1-I8

“Graphic? Perhaps. But the demographics of the North American 501 (c) 3 churches are continuing their projected demise. I take encouragement historically that the “apostolic remnant of mostly underground believers” for the 1000 years following Constantine survived and thrived during both the invading barbarians and the gothic cathedral establishment until the Renaissance “spring” emerged and the Reformation bloomed but, ultimately, actually withered. Realistically though, may I suggest, on the basis of Martyr’s Mirror accounts, those believers were much better prepared both spiritually and physically than we are today for the rigors of such turmoil.

And so now to a large extent, perhaps your parents, and others of my generation, often can’t debate with you the specific truths convincingly, but I propose we with decades of experiential Holy Spirit savvy know deep in our hearts, minds and souls, that something is dreadfully amiss in this current narrative and that we indeed are being “schnookered” down-stream toward certain disaster ….. Some of my generation refer to this current conflict of rebellion and lawlessness as possibly  having even higher stakes for our country than the Revolutionary War with the British. And perhaps so!

So may I submit to you that times now are not so very different from when Jesus was born. The Roman political, economic, and social undercurrents were similar to those today and religiously, there were many gods versus the One and Only True God who is about to offer his only Son as the final sacrifice for our pardons. True, the instant hype and drama as is visible today on screens everywhere, were then, noticeably absent. Perhaps we need to mimic the shepherds the historic night of our Savior’s birth and simply wait for the “real deal in the skies” to occur and until then, totally tune out today’s fear mongering media and focus only on God’s message to us from the Bethlehem gospel narrative. I challenge you to read the Christmas story. Then ponder as did Mary, the “real miraculous narrative” from the Bible as foretold in OT prophecy. I find these truths indeed  permanently put to rest the “chatter” and media “noise” that is so counterproductive for today’s believers.

I am hoping if perchance Christmas’s prior were merely a “Hallmark” event for you to enjoy family during the holidays, that today’s “uncertainties” accosting our culture and Christianity will provide you the impetus to closely examine your life to that of eternity, while you possibly replay your withering incriminating self-centered narrative. May this be the Best Christmas you have ever experienced! Thank God for the 2020 uncertainty and adversity! And for the Biblical “narrative” that ultimately points to securing our eternal life providing us internal peace. So, whether this be your first time “Christmas” experience or a renewal, who are you going to tell first?

See, therein lies the evidence of our biggest problem!

Blessings  AS YOU GO FORTH>>>>> Or not… merlin

Our Choice: A Destiny Driven Life, OR, Be A Desolation Driven Disaster….

So just where do I begin to explain my absence from merlinsmustache.com since April 12 when you last received an email announcing a new post?

Basically, I was convinced then that for me to continue writing in the veins as I was earlier, was no longer a priority as the national and world events were so rapidly unfolding. Rather, Loretta and I decided we were to become much more intentional in our efforts to prepare for our immediate future on many fronts; and since it was spring, gardening took center stage more than ever prior. It has been richly rewarding though we do have much work ahead of us.

In addition to gardening, I felt compelled to prepare three years of firewood for our outside wood burner as I was questioning whether it would be a good idea for me to be in the woods much after this summer with my chain saws, especially with the dangerous dead ash trees frequently dropping limbs unannounced if their trunks were disturbed by a chainsaw, my saw not being exempt! Never prior had I prayed so earnestly for His protection when about to drop a tree. I told someone recently that when I go the woods with a 8 inch hand  mirror in my tool bucket with wedges and wrenches, just to see more easily what is “up there” because of being so stooped, it is past time to stop dropping trees.

And then there was the “gentle, or the not so gentle, inner gnawing” prompting us to prepare for this uncertain future which is likely subconsciously unsettling. We increasingly realized we were living very dependent on other people, fixed conditions and supplies that may well no longer be available in the manner my generation and younger, have so taken for granted during our lifetimes. Those born in the ‘20’s and living through the Great Depression certainly have the advantage here. We began examining where we were vulnerable, whether for power and energy, general supplies and repairs, water, seeds, and staples. Fortunately, we have been considering some of these issues since we first remodeled in ’93 and during the addition in ’02, as well as the purpose of purchases since.

Fortunately, the You Tube how-to videos have proven invaluable for jump starting our learning curves in getting up to speed on virtually every front. I keep wondering how we would ever make it if the internet and cell phones go down! FYI, after buying many books on Kindle in recent years, I now am purchasing hard copy of those books I prefer to absolutely not be without in my work. Kindle books have so many unique advantages BUT if they are ever unavailable, an important book on the shelf will be priceless. Somewhat comparable to memorized scripture.

Now, to take all the above to new level, or the “new uncertain normal”, imagine you have examined your lifestyle with its strengths and weaknesses, and you are accomplishing the goals you have identified when one of you (I’m speaking of a married couple such as Loretta and myself, but I’m also thinking of so many other couples in our church family as I write this) are suddenly permanently removed or severely disabled cancelling out all plans. And that is exactly where Loretta and I are situated rather uniquely this very evening. But but first, a gardening story before I explain further.  

Back in April, I wanted to plow up our two acre previously ignored field to plant potatoes, partially just because now I could.  Truthfully, I wanted to do something more creative with it than merely bush hog it. Inaccessible now to the big equipment used by my neighbors, and because last fall I acquired my father’s first new tractor, a small MF 35 purchased in ’61 when I was 13. Dad sold it 28 years ago to a neighbor who sold it again 10 years ago to a person who knew we wanted it back. When the last owner desired more bells and whistles, he offered it to me last fall for merely $750 more than Dad paid originally. So this spring I was really hankering to try it out and since a neighbor to the west loaned me a plow and a neighbor to the east loaned me a disk, I was in business.

Only problem was I am now so far removed from the practicalities of agriculture, would you believe I initially wanted to plow up the entire two acre field and plant potatoes but my wise master gardener friend Jon F suggested I only attempt a quarter acre of spuds this year. So I complied. And then to make sure I might at least get my seed back, he came over with his father’s homemade tractor and helped me plant my 200 pounds of seed.  And very soon I realized just how much I appreciated his advice to keep the patch small.

Actually the spuds are doing well, in bloom and appears now we just may get more than our seed back. Part of our thinking with the spuds may be termed stewardship. I believe we each need to invest our resources creatively as we are enabled. Truthfully, merely paying taxes to look at productive land with 5-6 earthworms in each spade of dirt that needs to mowed is a huge waste. And with food shortages predicted, potatoes may be in demand so we are thinking we will offer them for free for picking them up after the digger to friends and family in need of them this winter. It certainly does not pay the taxes yet but it is a start. We are hoping that walking by faith through this small door may open more service opportunities and accrued wisdom. I share this story because I believe it lends credibility to the tension within the hearts and minds of believers today during these “devastating media consumptive” days as we all struggle to seek meaningful spiritual and relational relevance.

It was during gardening and in the woods this spring that I became aware of a fullness in my chest that caused me to sit down a minute or two to rest; I had no pain, no discomfort, no shortness of breath, etc.; just an awareness I really knew I needed to rest and so I would. After all, I am retired and though I always have plans, seldom am I tightly scheduled. Eventually I told Loretta and later called my doctor and got an appointment that I later needed to cancel and the rescheduling pushed me out to July. Several days later during prayer time seeking my days priorities, I felt compelled to call in and place my name on the call list if they had cancellations. And sure enough, my doctor had just had a cancellation the next day so I took it and explained my “chest-fullness.” Examining the EKG, he promptly scheduled an echo stress test at Wooster Community on June 30 at 1:30 PM that I flunked miserably. I thought I was doing quite well but what they saw on their screens brought Dr Moodispaw running and soon saying he wanted to admit me immediately. I begged him to let me go home for the evening to finish up the month end reports for my major client and he agreed provided I did nothing except desk work. Mission accomplished!

True to my promise, we returned for my heart cath at 7AM July 1. The experience was amazing as many of you can likely attest. However, Dr Moodinspaw soon confirmed his suspicions that my condition was indeed the “widow-maker (WM).” I faintly recall having heard the term prior somewhere, when suddenly with the force of a runaway Mack truck, the term WM was now my personal property and the taxes were past due. WM was clearly about to dictate the remainder of this year for Loretta and I, were we so fortunate to escape its clutches until my open heart surgery could be performed. This time there was no returning home to pack prior to being transferred to Aultman; Room 217 was secured and Dr. David Brown was expecting me as initially there was talk the surgery may even be done yet that afternoon. By noon, I was being driven east on Rt 30 where I viewed P Graham Dunn, the Haasz Automall and the  Dairette  through the rear window of a rough riding ambulance contemplating once again the fragility of my life and why against all odds, I have to date survived. It was only 77 days less than 2 years that I had my 9/18/18 life changing accident on Rt 30 at S Cochran St. I took a picture this time as I uneventfully passed over the hallowed ground where I was perhaps less than five feet from death.

Such events during my life have caused me considerable introspection and duress because I have the tendency to ask God “Why is my life continually being spared? For what purpose?” Why are we frequently so negative rather than rejoicing after such profound miracles? Sometimes I believe I create more dissonance than actual deliverance. Can anyone else relate to this? I really do not believe we as believers comprehend the depth of the deception that has have been “seeded” into our psyche this year covertly designed to undermine our faith! Personally, I have learned I must continually be seeking and sharing His guidance by reading and listening multiple times daily when possible from wisdom books beginning first with such as perhaps the One Year Bible, “Utmost for His Highest” and the multitude of resources available as never prior in history clearly detailing the birth, life, death and resurrection of Jesus Christ for our salvation with focus and clarity.

And so this afternoon Loretta and I were told by the surgeon the surgery is scheduled for Tuesday July 7 at 1:30 depending…..  Tomorrow I shall wash up (no showers as I’m not allowed to interfere with the heart monitor process) and put on civilian clothes and enjoy 4.5 days of making new friends among other patients and staff in this 5 star hotel without a pool which I couldn’t use anyway. Soon my activity will be limited to lifting no more than a gallon of milk  and not twisting turning or straining appreciably (as if I could endure the pain to even try) for at least six weeks (Aug 25) to be followed by three months of cardio rehab (Nov 25).

We all understand how one big event during a normal day, as experienced by me and many of you, has forever changed our life’s trajectory. But much more significant than one major event such as even death, is that I’m convinced we are not comprehending at all how the narrative being prepared for decades is now being implemented undetectably upon us daily; virtually continually in small sound bytes through our media literally from everywhere.

This morning I read from “Heavens Declare” Day 65 and I hope this encourages you as it did me and I quote “You are living a destiny-driven life instead of a desolation-driven life….. (Wow, isn’t that truth?) I have created you to produce and to become a reproducer of reproducers. (again, Matt 28:19 says “make disciples,” not merely converts. Review the parable of the sower!) There is a seed of multiplication that I have placed within you to bring about a plentiful harvest. (now this is the type of gardening that really excites me!) Your survival is based on the seed of creativity and life placed within you. What you desire is lodged in the fiber of your bones. I desire to unlock the hidden potential that will birth a wealth of ideas, concepts, and thoughts that will pave the way for personal breakthroughs in your life.”(You really need to read that last sentence several times. Unfortunately, the above truth’s are so foreign to and beyond our culture’s comprehension, they are usually considered to be total foolishness.)

I also offer you these passages from Proverbs for your comfort and consolation. First from 3: 7-8  Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and depart from evil. It will be health to your flesh, and strength to your bones. V 25: Do not be afraid of sudden terror, nor of trouble from the wicked when it comes; For the Lord will be your confidence… V 31-35  Do not envy the oppressor, and choose none of his ways; For the perverse person is an abomination to the Lord, but His secrete counsel is with the upright. The curse of the Lord is on the house of the wicked , but He blesses the home of the just. Surely He scorns the scornful, but gives grace to the humble. The wise shall inherit glory, but shame shall be the legacy of fools. Proverbs 4: 20-23  My son, give attention to my words; incline your ear to my sayings. Do not let them depart from your eyes; keep them in the midst of your heart; For they are life to those who find them, and health to all their flesh. Keep your heart with all diligence , for out of it spring the issues of life. (The Message paraphrases the latter as: “That’s where life starts.”)

Do you desire greater clarity and focus about where life starts? I challenge you to read the Gospel of John soon. Also, slowly read and reflect on a chapter from Proverbs each day for several months since Proverbs contains 31 chapters, one for each day.

If you are seeking greater clarity and focus for investing your interests, time, talents, and resources, I suggest you browse my coaching website at www:breakfreeenterprises.net, especially the Home and About pages and if that proves interesting, you may enjoy reading the blog titled “Why as a Believer I Encourage Life Coaching.”

Blessings as you go forth in these CERTAINLY uncertain TIMES.. Personally, I prefer living a DESTINY-DRIVEN life rather than being a DESOLATION-DRIVEN DISASTER! How about you?>>>>>merlin….

Memorial Day Weekend: Reverencing Our Past, Present, and Even Future Relationships

I believe one of the greatest problems in relationships today is caused by  a simple modern fallacy. In our age, understanding is posed as the foundation of relationship. It is not. The foundation of relationship is acceptance.

It is great wisdom to accept people where they are on the journey of life. Acceptance is the welcoming open arms of relationship.

The eighth of the Ten Principles of Excellence in Matthew Kelly’s book, The Rhythm of Life is “People deserve to be cherished.”

In order to cherish people, we must look beyond our personal preferences, prejudices, and judgmental inclinations to discover and reverence the wonder and marvel of the individual.

It is helpful to remember that we are all at different points along the path of life. Our ability to love and cherish people increases infinitely as we learn to accept people for who they are and where they are on their journey. Some people are at places we ourselves have been before, others are in places we have not yet been. It is a journey of trust that the same God who is moving you toward your purpose and dreams is moving them toward theirs. Even when you cannot understand people; accept them, cherish them.

Along the way, you will meet many people. Some of them you will help, assist, and advise. Others will help, assist and advise you. It has been my experience that when you think you are there to help someone else, chances are they are really there to help you. Our students make the best teachers.

Without the help of others, you will never make the journey. It is simply part of the divine plan that we make this journey together.

It is a funny thing that I have observed about life – mistakes are almost always and inevitably one’s own responsibility, but one’s successes, triumphs, and worthwhile achievements are rarely accomplished without the help of others.

The greatest barrier to loving people, to cherishing people, and to accepting people is our inability to see ourselves in them. Take a closer look. We are one. To see ourselves in others, (perhaps even our enemies) and others in ourselves; that is truly acceptance and perhaps the precursor of wisdom.

My father always told me that the key to success in business is personal relationships. My mother always told me that the key to a rich and rewarding personal life is personal relationships. I have discovered that the key to an abundant spiritual life is best served by developing first the vertical relationship with the Trinity before attempting all the horizontal personal relationships in our daily lives.

Life is relationship.

How are you relating? How are your relationships? Positively memorable I hope!

People indeed are a gift. Each person who crosses through your life is a chance to love, an opportunity to really live. Cherish people.

 Blessings as you pass through the gateway to the summer and beyond of 2020.

The above is verbatim from the book except for the italicized words added by merlin

FYI… Suggested Reading Path for Holy Week

 The one devotional since 1990 I have returned to repeatedly far more than any other, is Oswald Chambers “My Utmost For His Highest”(Revised Edition). This year the Holy Week calendar happens to match these Easter readings. Simply google “Utmost for His Highest” and hit subscribe to receive it daily. Or by specific date by googling MUFHH April 7.

                Monday April 6: The Collision of God and Sin…”Never associate the idea of martyrdom with the Cross of Christ. It was the supreme triumph, and it shook the very foundations of hell…”

            Tuesday April 7: Why We Lack Understanding…. “We must bear a oneness with His risen life before we are prepared to bear (hear) any particular truth from Him… God cannot reveal anything to us if we don’t have His Spirit…”

            Wednesday April 8: His Resurrection Destiny…. “but we can know here and now the power and effectiveness of His resurrection and can “walk in newness of life” (Romans 6:4). Paul’s determined purpose was to “know Him and the power of His resurrection” (Phil 3:10).

            Thursday April 9: Have You Seen Jesus?  …”If you see only what God has done for you, your God is not big enough. But if you had a vision, seeing Jesus as He really is, experiences may come and go, yet you will endure “as seeing Him who is invisible” (Hebrews 11:27).

            Friday April 10: Complete & Effective Decision About Sin …. “Have you made the following decision about sin – that it must be completely killed in you? ….. You cannot “reckon yourselves to be dead indeed to sin (Rom 6:11) unless you have radically dealt with the issue of your will before God.”

            Saturday April 11: Complete & Effective Divinity  …. “The Holy Spirit cannot be accepted as a guest in merely one room of your house—he invades all of it…. Just as there is only one kind of humanity, there is only one kind of holiness, the holiness of Jesus. And it is His holiness that has been given to us. God puts the holiness of His Son into us, and we belong to a new spiritual order.

            Sunday April 12: Complete & Effective Dominion…. IF it is difficult to get right with God, it is because we refuse to make a moral decision about SIN! BUT ONCE WE DO, the full life of God comes in immediately. Jesus came to give us an endless supply of life …”that you may be filled with ALL THE FULLNESS OF GOD” (Eph 3:19).

Relax! It May Be Awhile Until The Next Post…..

Indeed, it is strange, how quiet I’ve been lately. I figure you have more than enough to occupy your attention at the moment while I’ve been hearing the past two months the GPS gal shouting continually “Recalculating” as I attempt to navigate “life” as I’ve always done before.

But this GPS gal is not one bit happy with me! So having more wisdom now than prior, I have just pulled over on the shoulder for a spell to see if I can figure this “life navigation software” out before I place myself in serious danger or worse, endanger others. I really thought I knew the route I wanted to take to my destination preferring the back roads rather than the interstates and tollways. I prefer to savor the journey and enjoy the relationships that the slower pace and frequent interactions that the two lane roads afford as well as interacting with other humans and witness them actually living their relationships.

But honestly, right now I’m a trifle confused. Understand my destination is still crystal clear but the route and timing is all garbled. But not nearly as confusing as I believe it is for many persons today after being broadsided the last several weeks. We are all in a quandary of sorts. I remember back in January I told our SS class and my sister that what’s coming down the pike will make 911 look like a SS picnic. My sister told me Monday she heard a news broadcaster make that very statement last week.

The key word as I see it for the bottom line for this pandemic is RELATIONSHIP. Quite soon if not already, that word’s impact will escalate significantly for you because our relationships may no longer be as driven by “selfish individualism of the 20th century” as they were prior, but now, from here forward, we may well witness an “under girding of a prevailing inter-dependency. ” And that folks, may just change everything, actually your whole life.

Many have used the word relationship their entire lives but now will finally experience its significance and bottom line value (nothing to do directly with money though). For believers, our first relationship is the vertical authoritarian kingship (not usually well understood or appreciated in a democracy.. read John Bevere’s book “Undercover” ). Secondly, believers because of being both “endowed” as well as “empowered” by being adopted into the family afforded them by their vertical kingship, are more understanding and cognizant of the intricacies of life’s relationships, generally whether in normal times or wars, famines, or even pandemics.

Today a good friend of mine (actually my coach Jonathan Dunn) sent me his weekly You Tube clip whom he and his daughter release each Wednesday 6:30 AM, and he alluded quite directly to our role in performing a “quantum leap” during this pandemic in how relationships are both viewed and implemented at this time in history. He called it a RELATION-SHIFT, more than merely a relation-ship. Right on Jonathan! I look forward to your future wisdom. And your reference to Matthew 5:14-16 is so key. Your reference to the 80% of the population estimated to having experienced “loss, trauma, or betrayal” (LTB) may climb quickly higher. And your question to us about whether my behavior tomorrow is going to contribute to the LTB’s “healing” or “continued hurt” is spot on. As “lights” we are indeed to be “healers” requiring “relation*SHIFT.

Click on the link below, then Like and Subscribe to continue the weekly series. In the event the link does not work for you, proceed to YouTube and type in relation shift. It appears third down for me 6:20 min and (Series Part 1 of 7)

Blessings as You Go Forth With Greater Clarity Tomorrow As Healers>>>>> merlin

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Perhaps We Really Do Need To Be Forgiven

First the bad news

Thousands of babies are born every day into a world filled with bad news.  The term bad news has become a colloquialism to describe our era.

Why is there so much bad news? It’s simple. The bad news that occurs in the larger scale is only the multiplication of what is occurring on individual level. The power that makes for bad news is sin.

Now, The Even Worse News

 A common contemporary response to this bad news is to deny it or try to explain it away. Perhaps the most prevalent means of escaping blame is by classifying every human failing as some kind of a disease. Drunkards and drug addicts can check into clinics for treatment of their “chemical dependencies.“ Children who habitually defy authority can escape condemnation by being labeled “hyperactive“ or having ADD (attention deficit disorder). Gluttons are no longer blameworthy; they suffer from an eating disorder. Even the man who throws away his family’s livelihood to pay for prostitutes is supposed to be an object of compassionate understanding; he is “addicted to sex.”

An FBI agent was fired after he embezzled two thousand dollars, then gambled it away in a single afternoon at a casino. Later he sued, arguing that his gambling addiction was a disability, so his firing was an act of illegal discrimination. He won the case! Moreover, his therapy for the gambling addiction had to be funded under his employer‘s health care insurance, just as if he had been suffering from appendicitis or an ingrown toenail.

These days everything wrong with humanity is likely to be explained as an illness. What we used to call sin is more easily diagnosed as whole array of disabilities. All kinds of immorality and evil conduct are now identified as symptoms of this or that psychological illness. Criminal behavior, various perverse passions, and every imaginable addiction have all been made excusable by the crusade to label them medical afflictions. Even commonplace problems, such as emotional weakness, depression, and anxiety, are also almost universally defined as quasi-medical, rather than spiritual, afflictions.

The American Psychiatric Association publishes a thick book to help therapists in the diagnosis of these new diseases.  The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders or DSM-III-R, as it is popularly labeled – lists the following “disorders”:

Conduct Disorder – “a persistent pattern of conduct in which the basic rights of others and major age-appropriate societal norms or rules are violated.“

Oppositional Defiant Disorder –  “a pattern of negativistic, hostile, and defiant behavior.“

Histrionic Personality Disorder – “a pervasive pattern of excessive emotionality and attention seeking.“

Antisocial personality disorder – “a pattern of  irresponsible and antisocial behavior beginning in childhood or early adolescence and continuing into adulthood.“

And there are dozens more like that. Multitudes of parents, influenced by such diagnoses, refuse to punish their children for misbehavior. Instead, they seek therapy for ODD, or HDP, or whatever new diagnosis fits the unruly child’s behavior.

In the words of one author, the disease model approach to human behavior has so overwhelmed us as a society that we have gone haywire. We want to pass laws to excuse compulsive gamblers when they embezzle money to gamble and to force insurance companies to pay to treat them. We want to treat people who can’t find love and who instead, (when they are women) go after dopey, superficial men or (when they are men) pursue endless sexual liaisons without finding true happiness. And we want to call all these things, and many, many more – addictions.

What is this new addiction industry meant to accomplish? More and more addictions are being discovered, and new addicts are being identified, until all of us will be locked into our own little addictive worlds with other addicts like ourselves, defined by the special interests of our neuroses. What a repugnant world to imagine as well as a hopeless one to reside in. Meanwhile, all the addictions we define are increasing.

Worse yet, the number of people who suffer from such newly identified “sicknesses” is increasing even faster. The therapy industry is clearly not solving the problem of what Scripture calls sin. Instead it merely convinces multitudes that they are desperately sick and therefore not really responsible for their wrong behavior. It gives them permission to think of themselves as patients, not malefactors.  And it encourages them to undergo extensive-and expensive-treatment that last for years, or better yet, for a lifetime. These new diseases, it seems, are ailments from which no one is ever expected to recover completely.

The sin-as-disease model has proved to be a boom to the multibillion-dollar counseling industry, and the shift toward a long-term or even permanent therapy promises a bright economic future for professional therapists. One psychologist who has analyzed this trend suggests there is a clear strategy to the way therapists market their services:

1. Continue the psychologization of life;

2. Make problems out of difficulties and spread the alarm;

3. Make it acceptable to have the problem and be unable to resolve it on one’s own;

4. Offer salvation [psychological, not spiritual].

Recovery,  the codeword for programs modeled after Alcoholics Anonymous, is explicitly marketed as a lifelong program. We’ve grown accustomed to the image of a person who has been sober for forty years standing up in an AA meeting and saying, “I am Bill and I’m an alcoholic.” Now all “addicts” are using the same approach – including sex addicts, gambling addicts, nicotine addicts, anger addicts, wife-beating addicts, child-molesting addicts, debt addicts, self-abuse addicts, envy addicts,  failure addicts, overeating addicts, or whatever. People suffering from such maladies are taught to speak of themselves as “recovering,” never “recovered.” Those who dare to think of themselves as delivered from their affliction are told they are living in denial.

Perhaps the Wrong Prescription?

Disease-model therapy therefore feeds the very problem it is suppose to treat. It alleviates any sense of guilt, while making people feel they are victims, helplessly bound for life to their affliction. Is it any wonder that such a diagnosis so often becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy?

Congratulations for reading this far! I know this post started slow but it is laying an integral foundation for you to discover your Essential Purpose. I seldom hear from my readers but that’s OK as my writing is therapy for me, and much cheaper than seeing a counselor! Merlin writing  now. I purposely began this blog post without an introduction to the author. Rest assured I am not the author of what you just read, although my study of scriptures, You Tubes, articles and many books the past 17 months clearly causes me to resonate with the above content. Something just doesn’t quite add up or intimately resonate within my spirit in our efforts to facilitate either a client’s return to a productive fulfilled life via the disease – model therapy, OR as touted in coaching, far surpass their former lack luster achievements and disappointments.

And I do believe this author is effectively chipping away at the slag covering the recently botched “welds” of our attempts to the institute disease – model therapy and perhaps, even the  accepted and proven coaching techniques, especially in the church today and the culture beyond. When considering the eternal impact on these “humans in distress,” the somber words of warnings from Scripture fall heavily on all believers as we are all called to lead, guide and feed souls in “preaching the word being prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage ­– with great patience and careful instruction.” II Tim 4:2.

We indeed are interacting daily on holy ground, and if we are in synch scripturally, there is not a more rewarding investment of our time and energy possible anywhere. You certainly brought nothing into this world except your spiritual endowment at birth and upon your spiritual maturation, your empowerment by the Spirit and your leadership to encourage other’s to invest their time and energy as wisely, or more so than you, is the only investment capital guaranteed to reach  eternity either before or after you do! Think about that as you ponder the short sightedness of all your material investments here. Then think about the relationships in which you’ve been entrusted to teach as the song “Trust and Obey” says so well. Google it and read the words.

More from the anonymous author next time. If you found this insightful, tell others to read it and subscribe.

Blessings in fulfilling all of your eternal pursuits>>>>> merlin

"Two Jersey Ladies" as written by Arlen Svare

I was recently sent this personal historical accounting by Arlen Svare, from my Becker County home community in Detroit Lakes MN whom I first met on June 16, 2015 while visiting him and his wife Lillian in their home at the suggestion of my sister Verla (Mrs. Jon Hochstetler). Arlen and Lillian’s ministry began in St Paul at Bethel College where he met and married Lillian, graduated form college and seminary, and together served congregations across MN, Alaska, and WA retiring in the county of his birth. Arlen is an accomplished storyteller and conducted many such storytelling seminars in churches and conferences during his career.

Quoting from the book’s Forward, He modestly states his model was “Jesus Christ who went everywhere telling stories. He spoke of “a certain man had 100 sheep…. ” and “a certain woman had 10 coins…” He spoke of farmers , merchants, investment bankers, , noblemen, soldiers, clothiers, religious officials, tax specialists, among others. He used such metaphors as plants, rocks, food, birds, animals and fish. He used parables, allegories, hyperbole, and hypothetical situations.

In a word, Jesus was a master story-teller and all from everyday life! It naturally follows that we who are entrusted with sharing Scriptures with others ought to also find it imperative to illustrate and draw parallel applications. In writing of my experiences, many of which I used in sermons as illustrative material, I have insisted upon true stories, as accurate as my memory can provide. Perhaps the only entertaining result will be the viewing of God’s mysterious ways in the steering of a young man born June 28, 1929 through the vagaries of a depression, drought, war, and the acquiring of an education in a time of enormous transition and adventurous change.

Two Jersey Ladies

My father was a farmer though he  didn’t own a farm.  It was the time of the depression of 1929-39 when jobs were scarce but work was available…but for very little pay.  So he was a “tenant farmer”, working farms for widows whose husbands had passed on.

But he yearned for a farm of his own.  Due to a generous and considerate farmer for whom he worked near Vergas, Minnesota my father accumulated enough money to purchase 160 acres in the  northern part of the state….raw land with mostly trees and brush but with one redeeming feature –  it had a meadow.  Moving two abandoned buildings onto the property furnished him with what would eventually become  a home and barn .  It was a particularly adventurous time for me, aged eleven, since Dad would send me to Northome, thirteen miles north, for lumber and supplies, driving our 1938  Ford sedan!  People said they couldn’t see me over the steering wheel!

For an eleven year old boy, this was all an exciting development.  We had no near neighbors.  Each one was more than a mile of wall-to-wall trackless forest, from us, and  each day observing Ruffed Grouse and White Tailed Deer. We weren’t too surprised to see bear tracks on the ground near the barn.  I loved to explore, but from now on I explored with a compass in possession.  East?  Many miles of unoccupied forest land.  West?  At least 3 miles of primitive land.  Only our two neighbors, one north and the other south, would form a buffer against  becoming lost.  It was wonderful!

     But there  is a cloud on every horizon, we learned.  Our cloud came as a virtual cloud, singing and stinging!  Mosquitoes!  They arrived in the early evening and stayed all night!  No, nothing can be perfect!

 It is at this point that I introduce you to the Two Jersey Ladies. Dad bought them from an elder of the local small church.  His rationale was simply this:  along with the other six cows he had bought, the Jersey breed would typically milk a richer cream content to their milk and enhance the cream check that sustained our family weekly. Hence, the two “Jersey ladies” came onto the scene. He bought them from a man named John.  John was a liar and a cheat.  His last name will not be declared since my father felt that God alone should deal with the injustice.

John totally misrepresented the two cows.  He affirmed they were good milkers and mild of nature.  They would yield good calves and father’s herd would increase. None of it was true!  We named the one “Curly horns” because of the obvious severe curvature of her horns.  She was cantankerous, bullying the other cows and possessive of the water tank. We named the other Jersey cow “Three Teater” because, as we soon learned, she milked only out of three of the usual four teats.  Oh yes, it hung there as it should, but was a withered appendage of no use to dairyman or calf.  She was of a placid enough nature, but was such a fussy eater that the hay she left uneaten, the other cows happily ate up entirely.  To add insult to injury, neither cow ever came into season to be bred.  We concluded they were simply too old.   My father silently endured his bitter disappointment!

Please backtrack with me two years earlier than this event. My father and mother came dramatically into a trust relationship with Jesus Christ, and into a fellowship of believers that was hospitable, kind and warm hearted.  It transformed them both and their marriage became so improved that they soon had a little daughter!

I recall how they would sing hymns together, soprano and alto  (or whatever harmonized) and sometimes they would ask me, then a little boy, to sing along with them and harmonize.  It was a wonderful season of our home life!

But when we moved to northern Minnesota, claimed our farm and began attending the local church, my father no longer sang in church. Busy as we were, I never questioned it then, but since then realized that something had made a detrimental impact on him… specifically the betrayal by John, the church’s elder.  One more thing:  my father, who never showed a vindictive bone in his body,  would never refer to John with his real name–  sadly, he always referred  to him as “Judas”……!  The name stuck….at least in our household.

.For example:  my father and I loved deer hunting.  It was the only form of recreational activity he ever joined with me upon, whereas I also loved hunting, fishing, trapping and ice house decoy fishing.  It was when we were hunting together west of our home that, one day toward evening, he didn’t appear at our agreed upon meeting point.  It had become pitch dark at about nine o’clock when he came out of the woods.  He explained, “I became lost for a while, and almost ended up at Judas’ fence line.”

As we have stated, we had eight cows to milk morning and night.  Four were mine and four were his.  I noticed quite soon that the cows began to look upon me as their calf…or at least as a kind person who relieved them of the pressure of a full udder twice a day.  I noticed one day, while in a particular hurry to finish milking, that my cow was leaning away from me as I rapidly milked away.  I suddenly realized I was hurting her with my hurried milking process!  I eased up immediately and felt her against my shoulder relaxing once again into her usual posture.  She didn’t kick at me or  step away from me…. just quietly leaned away from the discomfort. 

We heard of an old couple that had a Holstein cow for sale.  She was a very large black and white cow with no horns and an obvious “I mean business” way about her. Dad bought her and when I came home from school I soon saw that here was a cow with a different personality.   She soon demonstrated her strength and size among the rest of our little herd and the two Jersey Ladies  were promptly removed from the pecking order and placed at the very bottom in rank!  She became my cow to milk. What a challenge!  She had enormous teats.  I could only fit my hand around the bottom half of their length but I soon realized I had a wonderful milk producer on my hands.  Most  days I milked two full pails morning and evening!  We became good friends.  But she was tricky and had a sense of humor.  When I needed to step between her and the next cow in the stanchions she would move against me and pin me against the stomach of the next cow!   I would be trapped there and as much as I might struggle, couldn’t extricate myself from between those two cows.  I would pummel and push with hands and knees, but to no avail.  It was my dad who gave me the solution.  He suggested that I carry a pliers in my pliers pocket of the overalls I wore, and work my hand down between the cows and seize it and pinch the  tricky cow’s skin with the pliers.  It worked wondrously!  She sprang away from me so suddenly that I could barely keep my feet!

She had another personality trait.  She had never known the experience of a farm dog in her life.  She couldn’t imagine a dog was anything but an enemy, apparently, so that when she took up residence with us she never would accept our friendly amiable dog.  We permitted him in the barn while we milked and none of the cows paid the slightest attention to him as he moved up and down the aisle behind them.  All except my large Holstein cow.  She watched her chance and if the dog came too close to her back end she would kick out at him.  Now that did not really do any harm – the dog ducked and the cow missed,  time and again.  But when one is milking that cow and it happens….I would feel the muscle tense in her thigh, quickly pull the milk pail aside and, if quick enough, be out of the way for the kick.  I noticed that the cow never kicked outward and back, but rather straight back.  She was deliberately careful not to kick in such a way that I would be struck.  She was obviously very conscious of my presence tucked practically under her as I milked her.  I was never harmed by that cow in any way.  She was careful for my safety,  even in her enmity of our dog!

My father never did quit singing but he reserved his singing to the barn as he milked.  I was surprised at his memory of the lyrics of the old hymns, but also of some lively songs from his youth.  I especially enjoyed the Norwegian songs he still remembered.  But once again I noticed an interesting behavior by our cows as we milked them.  They would become quiet in their chewing of hay and stand with their heads and ears cocked to hear him sing.  They obviously enjoyed it!  And the most amusing and fascinating thing came about a bit later.

We kept our calves in the same area, across the aisle from the cows, and since we separated cream from the milk to sell we had the remaining milk to use to feed pigs and calves.  So there was usually a half dozen calves of different ages together in a pen, anxiously waiting for their issue of milk.  Shortly after dad began to sing the calves would quit their agitating and anxiety for their milk and stand still, all looking intently at my father, a length of the barn away from them.  This continued for several days until, one day, one of the calves stretched his neck out, formed his mouth into a perfect “O”, and began to bellow with a varying up and down scale.  Dad and I laughed so hard we could hardly milk our cow.  But each time my father would begin singing again, the calf would join in.  Soon other calves began to do the same and we had a deafening chorus on our hands!    It became such a novelty that when visitors or relatives came to visit we  hurriedly took them to the barn to show off our “Singing Calves”!

When the month of August arrived we saw a change in our herd.  One cow carried a cowbell and we could usually determine their conduct by listening to the bell.  If it was rhythmical in its ringing the cows were grazing placidly.  If it was quiet, quite likely they were laying chewing their cud.  If it was jangling loudly, quite possibly something was harassing them and we needed to investigate. When August arrived we heard more and more of the jangling sound, but it was for another reason.  The cows were so viciously attacked by deer flies, horse flies and mosquitoes that they retreated to the heavy brush areas to try to escape the torment.  At times the insect attacks would become so severe that they threw their tails in the air and bellowing all the time,  galloped for the barn, standing in a circle around the barn door waiting to be permitted to enter, still bellowing continuously.  It was such a pitiful scene.  We opened the door and the cows immediately went to their stalls.  We then threw them some hay, knowing they had not fed by grazing, and sprayed over their backs with DDT, now a strongly forbidden product but highly effective.  The cows stood  with their eyes closed, nodding off in sleep, finally relieved of their excruciating torment. 

Then the Japanese attacked Pearl Harbor!  It changed our lives completely.  My father was then 40 years old, entirely liable to be called into the armed services by the Selective Service Board.  What would we do?  Two of my mother’s brothers, my uncles, were called, one to the Army and one to the Navy.  Several other brothers lived in Seattle and informed us that there was any number of good paying jobs that would put my father into the “war work” status and  preclude them being drafted into the service.  Many farmers were excluded because we also needed farm produce for the war effort, but our farm did not produce enough to qualify.  My parents decided that my dad would proceed to the Seattle area and get a job, find housing and send for my mother and his daughter.  They would leave me with a family to finish my first year of high school.

Soon after my father arrived he found a job building housing for the Army bases scattered over the area.  His area was Port Orchard, Washington, across the Bremerton Bay from the Bremerton Shipyards.  The change in climate was apparently too severe of a shock….my mother got a message that he had pneumonia and that she had better come soon to help him with his health. 

     Nearly three miles away from our farm lived a large family named  the Bolstads.  We didn’t know them very well but my mother contacted them and asked them if they would simply move into our home and take over the farm as it stands, caring for the animals and accepting the cream check and other benefits that may result..  They accepted and immediately I found myself living with an old couple near my high school and my mother and sister were gone out west.

     My dad recovered his health and they soon found housing and in the course of time I joined them out west.  It resulted in another vastly different but exciting adventure that will occupy another short story sometime.

     As time passed and the war was finally over, my family returned to their farm and I returned to finish high school. The Bolstads, with our heartfelt thanks, moved back to their farm.  My parents commented repeatedly how well they had taken care of everything.  Nothing was missing or out of place.  The animals were well cared for and it was almost like we had never left.  The Bolstads hold a high place in our estimation from that very day.   But the west had made its mark on my parents and the farm  now revealed itself much more clearly as a futile endeavor, so my parents decided to hold an auction, sell everything and move back to the Seattle area.

   An auction was a new thing to me.  I had never even seen one in my life.  I even have the auction bill and am astonished at the scarcity of items on that bill offered for auction.  We didn’t have much, but we didn’t know it.  The only items of household goods that my parents kept was a two wheeled trailer and whatever furniture they could pile on it.  I even sold my beloved .22 rifle!  When it came up for bids the auctioneer turned to me and asked if it was in good operating order.  I offered to demonstrate but a loud chorus of “NO!” from the bidders ended that offer!

     As the auctioneer was selling the livestock I noticed my father had stopped what he was doing and began to run toward the  crowd as it gathered around the auctioneer.  He held up his hand and stopped the auction.  I was startled and wondered what was going on.  As I ran to be close enough to hear, I saw something that made an impression on me for my entire life.  The “Jersey ladies” were being sold and the auctioneer, as was his duty, was exclaiming their purebred “worth”, and the bids were climbing higher and higher.  My father stopped the bidding and told the bidders the truth about those cows.  They were poor milkers, cantankerous in nature and never came into season to breed.  The bidding started over and didn’t reach half way to the original bids. I learned that my father, even though he was moving permanently from the area, would not permit his neighbors to be cheated by bidding too high for animals misrepresented!

     I don’t know what became of our Two Jersey Ladies.  Somebody bought them at that auction and I suspect they were immediately shipped to the never-never land.  The only cow I hated to see sold was my friend, the big black and white Holstein.

     The “Jersey Ladies”, however, served a wonderful purpose, however.  They showed me a father who was honest even when it hurt!”

Merlin writing now. Arlen graciously gave me one of his dwindling supply of 312 page books titled “Adventures of a Lifetime: Jesus said “Come, follow me…. ” after that historic visit and actually, I just may be talked into loaning it for you to enjoy. No, it is not available on Audible or Kindle, yet that is.

Blessings as you go forth today inspired by Arlen & Lillian’s faithfulness… and his fathers demonstration of honesty for lifetimes and generations to come!! …. Merlin

If There Is No Discipline, There Is No Love….

While preparing for an interactive participatory presentation of the thirty truths  Matthew Kelly sets forth so succinctly in his book “The Seven Levels Of Intimacy,” I was stirred to share this truth of the effect of Discipline on Love, and especially so, for those of us in the relationship of marriage. Recent events and conversations of depth, or not, compel me to share these words directly from Matthew. This book is a must in everyone’s “arsenal for successful living,” otherwise normally referred to as a library. Enjoy.   


“Discipline awakens us from the hedonistic stupor of modern popular culture and refines every aspect of the human person. Discipline doesn’t enslave or stifle us; rather, it sets us free to soar to unimagined heights. Discipline sharpens the human senses allowing us to savor the subtle tastes of life‘s experiences. Discipline heightens every human experience and increases every human ability.

One of the great challenges of the art of living is to learn to discipline ourselves, but at this moment in history, gratification seems to be the master of most people’s hearts, minds, bodies, and souls. We find ourselves enslaved and imprisoned by a thousand different whims, cravings, addictions, and attachments. We have subscribed to the adolescent notion that freedom is the ability to do whatever you want, wherever you want, whenever you want, without interference from any authority. Could the insanity of our modern philosophy be any more apparent?

Freedom is not the ability to do whatever you want. Freedom is the strength of character to do what is good, true, noble, and right. Freedom is the ability to choose and celebrate the-best-version-of-yourself in every moment. Freedom without discipline is impossible.

Freedom is not the core of the human experience we call life. No. Love is the essence of life. Love is life‘s greatest joy and her greatest lesson. Love is the one task worthy of life. We busy ourselves with so many things, while the one great task we set aside, ignore, neglect. Love is your task – to love yourself by striving to become the best version of yourself, to love others by encouraging them and assisting them in their quest to become the best versions of themselves, and to love God by becoming all you were created to be.

But in order to love, you must be free, for to love is to give your self to someone or something freely, completely, unconditionally, and without reservation. It is as if you could take the essence of your very self in your hands and give it to another person. Yet to give yourself – to another person, to an endeavor, or to God – you must first possess yourself. This possession of self is freedom. It is a prerequisite for love, and attained only through discipline.

This is why so very few relationships thrive in our time. The very nature of love requires self-possession. Without self-mastery, self-control, self-dominion, we are incapable of love. We want to love, but without self-possession we are simply unable to do so. We are not free. We do not possess ourselves and so we cannot give ourselves. And as a result, we preoccupy ourselves with all the externals of relationships and call those love.

The problem is that we don’t want discipline. We want someone to tell us that we can be happy without discipline. But we can’t. In fact, if you want to measure the level of happiness in your life, measure the level of discipline in your life. The two are directly related.

To love we must be free, and yet too often, we are slaves. Love is a promise, but a slave is in no position to promise anything to anyone. Never believe a promise from a man or woman who has no discipline. They have broken a thousand promises to themselves, and they will break their promise for you. Discipline is evidence of freedom, and freedom is a prerequisite of love.”

Well said Matthew! Thanks for the truthful encouragement. Blessings as you GO FORTH TODAY CONSIDERING YOUR LIFE’S LEVEL OF HAPPINESS…. SATISFIED?. >>>>  merlin