Favorite Adopted Son Preaches First Sermon Today

As presented to us by Darrell Haven 02/19/23

As both of our pastors and spouses were in an Evana retreat event this weekend, we were privileged to have one of our own challenge and encourage our congregation this morning. Darrell’s interaction begins at 28 minutes with the children first. The text taken from Acts 20:7-12, is built around the event when a young man dozed off listening to Apostle Paul around midnight (perhaps they needed a worship band to liven things up) while sitting in a third story window and was killed. Never do I recall this text used prior. Darrell weaves his words from the acronym L I V E.

L for LOVING the fallen we meet in in our lives;

I for being INTENTIONAL; continually aware of our surroundings, always considering both its dangers and opportunities;

V is VICTORY being our constant focus, both expected and enjoyed;

E is ENCOURAGEMENT to ( and from) each other.

Upon opening the clip, advance to Darrell’s words beginning at 28 minutes. May his words bless you this week.

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Well Now, This Is A First For Me!

Recently I heard about preparing for our planet’s three days of darkness. I find this all quite interesting, especially now with the scientists even admitting they’re being baffled by our sun’s weirdness twice within days. Personally, beyond that, I feel Loretta and I are about to enter 37 days of darkness. Understand, my best friend and wife of nearly 50 years is at this moment, 3 AM February 18, 2023 at the CLE airport later departing for Honduras for her annual Central America Medical Outreach (CAMO) mission trip for two weeks. After that, she’ll be exploring Panama with our eldest son Ben and his wife Jill, who moved there last year when they recently retired.

Less than three months ago none of these 37 days of darkness for us were anywhere on our horizon. Then, Loretta got a phone call from the CAMO founder pleading she join the dental team once more as she did I believe 23 times prior the three years off for Covid. Sensing this was Spirit’s nudge to reconsider her earlier decision to discontinue any more such adventures, we began processing the possibility and it wasn’t long that a series of confirmations were provided to us, even including the three weeks in Panama.

We both know now our earlier confirmations for these 37 days are empowering us to fearlessly move forward in their implementation and fully trust His leading; both to empower us for the tasks at hand, as well as to protect us while in the palm of his hand, as we are being the obedient, forgiven, transformed, empowered, discipling Bond Servants of Jesus Christ serving as His ambassadors until death permits our retirement. And, only three months ago neither of us possessed the confidence or the peace of mind to even consider this adventure. Amazing.  

Understand, I am omitting many details but fast forward to this morning as I awoke at 12:45 AM and I first scanned my daily reading for February 18 from My Utmost For His Highest, titled “Taking the Initiative Against Despair,” an extremely positive encouragement. “Rise, let us be going,” from Matt. 26:46. Recently, I’ve been consistently awakening 5-10 minutes before the alarm goes off (not this morning though), and I’m increasingly being aware that it’s His confirmation for me that I’m not only in the presence of God, but that it’s time to “rise and let us be going…” Also, I do not recall ever speaking as candidly from my heart as I will now and am not at all sure the path my words may take me, except, that I am to write as prompted.

Now I’ll try to explain the reality of living in real time in synch with Jesus from my infinitesimal understanding of “Taking the initiative against despair” as Ozzie lays it out for us today so simply. Understand I would be ecstatic if all I’d done amiss in my life was having gone to sleep three times, but I did, even more, and events were tragic for me. Yes, I know it is our Lord’s request we pray, that we are diligent with whatever, wherever, however, whenever, whoever…. Folks, my other shoe just dropped. Suddenly I recall this pervading thought of the coming three days of darkness. How many times will He return to summon me to “Rise, and let us be going….” Am I even living in His presence so I can hear “Rise, and let us be going…” May we become, if we’re not, the obedient, forgiven, transformed, empowered, discipling Bond Servants of Jesus Christ serving as His ambassadors until death permits our retirement.

Simply being aware that we’ve been asleep and oblivious to what is really, or about to really happen about us, as with Rip Van Winkle and historically, as I believe the institutional church is today, being “without a clue”. Simply being aware God “IS” begins  Restoration Step 1. Aware God IS.

Next, as I see it, my potential for future despair (since my past despair is forgiven) has a taproot more tenacious than a dandelion. I offer you apostle Peter as an example of dealing with his despair from his disobedience as such usually occurs in public while avoiding embarrassment from our peers, friends, and family, etc. I suggest the root cause is perhaps because we doubt our identity in Christ. Listen to Getting your identity from God –  Jamie Winship – 04/07/2019 youtu.be  for a great introduction to our deception.

The solution for us after failing our identity test, is to do as Peter demonstrated, get real, recognize your sin, be obedient, forgiven, transformed, (let’s just call it  OFTEDA) Ok, you got the routine. Understanding our complicity and complacency to deny our Savior is Restoration Step 2. or Denying Our Identity in Christ.

 Next, comes the quantum leap. I just happen to believe now folks, and am living by and practicing that God’s Son Jesus never wastes ANY of our sins. No, I do not have a specific scripture for this deduction or conclusion on my part, nor have I ever taken time to really research it out, though I’ve shared it with those I’ve mentored or coached recently as a strengthening exercise to live in spiritual victory.

Though hidden from God’s sight because of Jesus’s blood, we as humans with yet functioning coherent memories, can and will recall our sinful acts of hatred against God and humanity as deplorable, despicable, and atrocious acts as they indeed were. Our huge step of faith occurs when we are able to rejoice in the fact of God’s provision for our “complete forgiveness removing them as far as the east is from the west!”

That miracle having occurred, so that none of our evil horrid sorry past will ever be seen by God, is basic to our living a life of joy, which is quantum levels above the happiness our culture is seeking.

Now, if I am so bold to conclude that none of this evil horrid sorry past will be wasted, I must explain further. First understand, when we’ve been forgiven, God can’t even see our sin; therefore, he will never be plagued with his memory reminding Him of our sin.

Second, even though we’ve been OFTEDA, we will on occasion be reminded of past sins. And when that occurs, I simply choose to “Rise, let us be going…. by: 

First, commanding Satan that I am by the blood of Jesus and OFTEDA, a new creature in Christ and beyond his reach.

Second, I realize my prior discretions that led to my evil horrid sorry past are no longer temptations on the table since the joy of living with Jesus has removed them.

Third, as I intersect daily in my spheres of influence as His ambassador, I draw tremendous strength in my empathy from Christ to relate to individuals tempted to stumble on the road of life as I had fallen victim to earlier.

These three points indeed provide me the vital spark needed in Step 3 to ignite my spiritual initiative against any future despair the devil in his sly and cunning ways may be preparing for me by having me recall in living color and surround sound my prior sin. Without a doubt, it took most of my life to understand this and I’m just now verbalizing this illusive truth, at least for me, in Restoration Step 3. I pray you can power through to victory much sooner than I.

The word empathy as I used it above again comes to mind. I believe God desires to endow all of his children with His empathy and that it would be readily visible to others who are sorely in need of His OFTEDA rooted empathy. Unfortunately, I chose at times to use empathy selfishly and Satan quickly and effectively deceived me destroying both my spiritual intimacies with Jesus and humanity. I’m not at all sure why I felt the need to share that; perhaps you do.

FYI, in conclusion, I just noticed Ozzie identified the 4 D’s for which we need inspiration, after he introduces “The Inspiration of Spiritual Initiative,” on February 16 in the four days following, those being “taking the initiative against depression, despair, drudgery, and daydreaming.”

So, what’s the key word for Restoration Step 3.? I’m struggling with that. I was first reminded of “Waste Not, Want Not” but that from the century past is out of view for today’s movers and shakers, even though perhaps, being remotely applicable here. Ozzies last line today states “Never let the sense of past failure defeat your next step.” So very true! For now, I’ll just deem Step 3 is Choose Victory.

In summary, Restoration Step 1.) Be Aware God IS; Step 2.) Know & Practice your Identity in Christ; & Step 3.) Choose Victory

Another note, I keep waiting to be invited somewhere locally to “a spark service being fanned into a consuming flame” from the Ashbury University Chapel. As of yet, I have not found it being livestreamed. Yesterday’s chapel from Friday Day 9 is being played now at 8:10 AM Saturday. Mark is speaking now of the Deep Spiritual Hunger being exhibited everywhere. And to simply Come as invited in Matt.11:28-30, to give away our “fake and fleeting” in exchange for His “real and permanent,” to indeed, experience the Abundant Life. Their chapel services are online anytime.

We indeed are experiencing such historic days on so many fronts. Like trying to get a drink from a fire hose. Are we awake, alert, and aware? And above all else, are we in prayer? Both individually and in our spiritual communities?

Click the link below to read what Ozzie wrote that inspired this document. Experience the power of his wisdom succinctly spoken. That is not me. This though is only my first draft.

Also, I’d be remiss not to solicit your prayers for Loretta and I during our 37 days of darkness until we’re reunited. Thank You.

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Why Can’t We Just Listen?

Let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger. James 1: 19

Perhaps today in this age of email, we should add “slow to send” to this verse.

God in His great wisdom created mankind with two ears and only one mouth. Perhaps that was because He wanted us to listen twice as much as we speak. Most of us are really poor listeners. Bob and I rate this skill as one of the top priorities in having a good relationship. I guarantee if couples would take the time to become better listens, their relationships would be improved through better understanding and increased patience.

It’s important to remember, though, that women tend to be better listeners than men, probably because most men immediately want to fix what is broken and listening is considered a waste of time. To them, the solution is what’s important; they want to go directly to the bottom line.

So be brave and ask several of your trusted friends soon how they would rate you on your listening skills.Be prepared to take their honest answers and act upon the information constructively. Don’t get into the trap of thinking you are so much better at listening than so-and-so. Almost everyone is below par in this skill.

We will become better listeners when we realize how people value being heard. It gives people an awareness that we care for what they have to say and that we truly love them. Our own spirits are lifted up when those around us know we care for them.

Listening is truly an art form that can be mastered if we practice. Observe yourself in a crowd, or even one-on-one, to see how you do. Change comes when you know and act on Spirit revealed truth.

This morning I was reminded again, that James 1:19 compels us in our hearing, to not only distinguish truth from narrative chatter, but then in our “provoked human response,” be slow to speak and slow to anger. And as I alluded to above, perhaps we need also to be slow in our temptation of the moment, to “hit the SEND button.” Perhaps, like waiting a few hours, or even, to sleep on it! Just saying.

Inspired by and adapted from Minute Meditations For Women by Emilie Barnes

Prayer:

 Father God, I know I frequently get into trouble with my relationships when I stop listening and start to open my mouth. Or, even hit the send button too soon. Please forgive me for the words that I have said or SENT OUT foolishly over the years. Heal the wounds I have left behind. I must improve my relationships. Let such begin with me TODAY.  Amen.

Action:

Seek out a few friends and have them reflect on what kind of a listener you are to them. Be brave, loving, and willing to hear and act on what they have to say. Practice patience and above all, due diligence before SENDING and/or SPEAKING, especially when provoked!

On Valentine’s Day, A Love Letter from a Dad to the Courts.

A 2000 Word Prayer Request to my blog’s readers for an 8 year old son to simply experience his mother’s love be ‘reawakened’ and that the courts understand their role…

Where do I begin to share the burdens of my heart for the well-being of my son Andrew, a victim now of circumstances of my earlier doings, and now far beyond either his or even my control?” By Andrew’s father who penned the following words to explain to the courts his pain.

Andrew had a counseling appointment last Tuesday February 7th. When I got there Andrew and his mother were sitting in the waiting room and Andrew was looking at her phone. I brought a book for Andrew with me like I have been doing.  I try to get him interested in reading and I point out the big words in the books to see if he knows them.

I’m so glad now that Andrew is finally doing better in school after a rough start last fall. He did very well at the Asheville school so I find it very difficult to understand why he had to be taken away from his friends and the community where he has been since birth.  And I also don’t understand how I can only have him every other week during summers and no overnights during school? 

His mother text me today (Feb 14) to say Andrew awoke at 4:30 puking with a tummy ache so he will be spending another day in his dysfunctional grandparent’s house that in earlier years produced three daughters, all today with major drug and relationship problems. He’ll receive only minimal interaction, spending most of the day likely on his tablet or watching tv. His mother implies this upset tummy happens frequently. Stranger still, I’ve not heard the complaint or witnessed a tummy ache once yet.

His mother says Andrew suffered from depression and anxiety while attending Asheville the last 3 years. In all the reading I have done about depression and anxiety in kids his age, the literature emphasizes that depression or anxiety in children will prevent them from thriving academically and socially in school. Andrew grades and school life socially at Asheville were exemplary and he totally enjoyed extracurricular activities like baseball and kickball. Considering all the obstacles encountered in transitioning to the Central City school and its surrounding negative environment, Andrew has proven I believe that he has adjusted well, matured, and is capable of rising above undesirable circumstances including a school change, even with his aversion to now spending more time at his mother’s house because that’s what the court decided.

I believe it is no secret to the intimate observers of Andrew’s demeanor that the biggest thing Andrew has trouble adjusting to is staying at his mother’s house. Before the change, I observed he often did not want to go back to her house. Several times he didn’t want to go to school because he knew he had to go to back to his mom’s house after school. And now he is exactly where he didn’t want to be, every single day! From my observations, it seems that his mother’s house is the only place he struggles with or exhibits dissatisfaction, perhaps even depression or anxiety, to the point of causing tummy aches.

And to be professionally concerned as a parent, I understand that his mother seldom if ever plays with Andrew and actually, spends the majority of her time looking at her phone. And I’m told her excuse for using marijuana so frequently includes such as being too hot at work, having to deal with the multiple idiosyncrasies of her dysfunctional parents, driving her grandma around, dealing with a fleeting motivation to exercise, and any other reason she can come up with. Her medical marijuana card now frees her from having to be discreet or hide her usage any longer. And believe me, after I heard about Sam Quinones 2015 landmark book titled “Dreamland: The True Tale of America’s Opiate Epidemic,” I better understand both the drug usage hierarchies and the ever-present threat of usage and addiction, so that I now pray even harder that Andrew will be spared the effects of such exposures in the Central City environments.

But perhaps even more damaging to Andrew’s social and mental development from what I read in the literature, is that his mother tends to yell at Andrew about anything; from being dirty to not doing things fast enough, etc.  Continual exposure to an atmosphere of negative yelling really, really concerns me. Read the literature. And while I’m just being honest, his mother in the past always possessed a gun that I understand at one time, at least was not allowed with a medical marijuana card. Do understand I am not knowledgeable of her present status in these areas.

Also, please understand I am being told these things by Andrew totally without any provocation or “fishing” from me; he is just sharing from his heart, and certainly not out of spite or to hurt his mother. I am sure a skilled child interviewer or counselor could easily verify this and much more if over time, a proven relationship of trust for Andrew’s well-being is established with him and the value of this relationship is recognized as such by Andrew himself, and not just a passing momentary manipulation as needed for whatever the pressing issue or narrative.

I certainly am not a perfect parent but I am devoted 100% to being a positive role model to Andrew.  I do concentrate all my efforts to demonstrate confidence and leadership in Andrew’s presence. Andrew sees how knowledgeable I am about farming and is better understanding its accompanying work ethic. I’m not afraid to be unique and Andrew sees and understands already that I don’t pretend to be someone I’m not and that I always tell the truth. I enjoy communicating and interacting with everyone and Andrew sees how positive and rewarding it is to be socially engaged as opposed to being addicted to phones, tablets, and tv’s. Andrew needs to be engaged socially and enjoying satisfying long term relationships.

I also try to learn new things to share with Andrew and then challenge him to learn and do his best at everything he has the opportunity to experience. As Andrew shares his goals with me, I try to help him accomplish them.  I’m certainly not perfect though I’ll readily admit it when I make mistakes. I don’t use drugs, alcohol or tobacco products. I eat healthy, exercise and volunteer to help coach baseball, soccer or anything else I can help out with in Andrew’s life.

Sadly, for Andrew’s sake, it appears too often his mother looks to capitalize on my mistakes and keep Andrew away from me. She says I’m alienating Andrew from her. I am not doing that at all; truth be told, his mother by her actions is doing that to herself. I make it a point to never put her down or degrade her to anyone, publicly or privately; therefore, Andrew hears nothing derogatory from me about his mother. I am dedicated to encouraging every positive bond possible between Andrew and his mother so there will a lifetime of warm mutuality and appreciation for her. Realize though, none of this is ever verbalized to anyone except the professionals in my life, as I’m very concerned that their mother son bond be nurtured and flourish long term, as I believe his mother may someday reap what she has sown during these adolescent years.

However, I do not believe his mother understands at all this future reaping. Again, the literature states and I firmly believe a long term professional skilled interviewing process would substantiate all of this. I personally can say from experience, that his mother is constantly trying to keep Andrew from me, even before we were divorced and very sadly, I’d be remiss not to say now that her actions towards Andrew’s well-being, (ignoring all her negative personal encounters towards me) as demonstrated in this case, is too often not for what will actually benefit Andrew, but for her vendetta to spite me.  There is absolutely nothing in my life now more precious to me than to see my son experience every privilege to which he is entitled and to thrive as he was endowed, designed and empowered.

I hesitate to say this but this whole scenario rather reminds me of King Solomon in the biblical account of dealing with the two prostitutes with a child as recorded in I Kings 3: 16-28 and I’ll take this liberty to share it.

[16] Two prostitutes showed up before the king. The one woman said, “My master, this woman and I live in the same house. While we were living together, I had a baby. Three days after I gave birth, this woman also had a baby. We were alone— there wasn’t anyone else in the house except for the two of us. The infant son of this woman died one night when she rolled over on him in her sleep. She got up in the middle of the night and took my son— I was sound asleep, mind you!— and put him at her breast and put her dead son at my breast. When I got up in the morning to nurse my son, here was this dead baby! But when I looked at him in the morning light, I saw immediately that he wasn’t my baby.”

[22] “Not so!” said the other woman. “The living one’s mine; the dead one’s yours.” The first woman countered, “No! Your son’s the dead one; mine’s the living one.” They went back and forth this way in front of the king.

[23] The king said, “What are we to do? This woman says, ‘The living son is mine and the dead one is yours,’ and this woman says, ‘No, the dead one’s yours and the living one’s mine.'”

[24] After a moment the king said, “Bring me a sword.” They brought the sword to the king.

[25] Then he said, “Cut the living baby in two-give half to one and half to the other.”

[26] The real mother of the living baby was overcome with emotion for her son and said, “Oh no, master! Give her the whole baby alive; don’t kill him!” But the other one said, “If I can’t have him, you can’t have him-cut away!”

[27] The king gave his decision: “Give the living baby to the first woman. Nobody is going to kill this baby. She is the real mother.”

[28] The word got around— everyone in Israel heard of the king’s judgment. They were all in awe of the king, realizing that it was God’s wisdom that enabled him to judge truly.

We do all have numerous responsibilities to love and to protect those in our spheres of influence.

You as public servants have been given an awesome responsibility to administer justice in a distraught hurting and angry world. I not only pray for Andrew’s protection daily, but also for his mother in her God-given role as Andrew’s mother, which goes far beyond our now trivialized marriage vows, “’til death do us part,” referring to the permanent birth bond between mother and son for life; note time nor conditions are not specified. I also include prayers for you as public servants of the courts as you all are privileged to perform your tasks as assigned.

Substantiated by all the reasons detailed above, I am requesting that Andrew be transferred back to the Asheville school immediately reducing the travel time for all parties significantly and during winter months, reducing traveling in the dark. I’ve asked my attorney to submit the previous 50/50 shared parenting plan and that I be allowed to get Andrew from school every day and then meet his mother at the Cracker Barrel after she is done with work. Therefore, Andrew would be able to play spring baseball with his friends in Asheville that soon starts in March. Remember, it’s all about what’s best for Andrew; and not at all about the selfish wishes of his mother or I.

Thank you for listening.

And thanks to you for taking time to read this lengthy document by Andrew’s father to the guardian ad litem assigned this case. His father truly exhibits the patience and love of Christ in a gut wrenching situation. Will you join us in prayer for a favorable outcome during the court hearing scheduled now for February 27?  Thank you. merlin

Ever Ignore the Obvious?

This chapter spoke volumes to me this morning on the threshold of possibly being another historical pivotal week considering global events. How about you? Are we offering our required due diligence when prompted by Holy Spirit?

Proverbs 10 The Message Version

1] … Wise son, glad father; stupid son, sad mother.

 [2] Ill-gotten gain gets you nowhere; an honest life is immortal.

[3] GOD won’t starve an honest soul, but he frustrates the appetites of the wicked.

[4] Sloth makes you poor; diligence brings wealth. [

5] Make hay while the sun shines-that’s smart; go fishing during harvest-that’s stupid.

[6] Blessings accrue on a good and honest life, but the mouth of the wicked is a dark cave of abuse.

[7] A good and honest life is a blessed memorial; a wicked life leaves a rotten stench.

[8] A wise heart takes orders; an empty head will come unglued.

[9] Honesty lives confident and carefree, but Shifty is sure to be exposed.

[10] An evasive eye is a sign of trouble ahead, but an open, face-to-face meeting results in peace.

[11] The mouth of a good person is a deep, life-giving well, but the mouth of the wicked is a dark cave of abuse.

12] Hatred starts fights, but love pulls a quilt over the bickering.

[13] You’ll find wisdom on the lips of a person of insight, but the shortsighted needs a slap in the face.

[14] The wise accumulate knowledge-a true treasure; know-it-alls talk too much-a sheer waste.

[15] The wealth of the rich is their bastion; the poverty of the indigent is their ruin.

[16] The wage of a good person is exuberant life; an evil person ends up with nothing but sin.

[17] The road to life is a disciplined life; ignore correction and you’re lost for good.

[18] Liars secretly hoard hatred; fools openly spread slander.

[19] The more talk, the less truth; the wise measure their words.

[20] The speech of a good person is worth waiting for; the blabber of the wicked is worthless.

 [21] The talk of a good person is rich fare for many, but chatterboxes die of an empty heart.

[22] GOD’s blessing makes life rich; nothing we do can improve on God.

[23] An empty-head thinks mischief is fun, but a mindful person relishes wisdom.

[24] The nightmares of the wicked come true; what the good people desire, they get.

[25] When the storm is over, there’s nothing left of the wicked; good people, firm on their rock foundation, aren’t even fazed.

[26] A lazy employee will give you nothing but trouble; it’s vinegar in the mouth, smoke in the eyes.

[27] The Fear-of-GOD expands your life; a wicked life is a puny life.

[28] The aspirations of good people end in celebration; the ambitions of bad people crash.

[29] GOD is solid backing to a well-lived life, but he calls into question a shabby performance.

[30] Good people last-they can’t be moved; the wicked are here today, gone tomorrow.

[31] A good person’s mouth is a clear fountain of wisdom; a foul mouth is a stagnant swamp.

[32] The speech of a good person clears the air; the words of the wicked pollute it. …

We reading a chapter from Proverbs daily for several months may improve our perspective a bunch! Send me a note describing your adventures while doing that during prior years.

Blessings merlin

Seriously Now, In These Days, Is Your Mind Stayed on God?

You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You. ISAIAH 26:3

Strategic Life Planning 101.0

Is your mind stayed on God or is it starved? Starvation of the mind, caused by our neglect, is one of the chief sources of exhaustion and weakness in a servant’s life. If you have never used your mind to place yourself before God, begin to do it now. There is no reason to wait for God to come to you. You must turn your thoughts and your eyes away from the face of idols and look to Him and be saved (see Isaiah 45:22).


You should seek to be “bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ…” (2 Corinthians 10:5 ). This will be one of the greatest assets of your faith when a time of trial comes, because then your faith and the Spirit of God will work together. When you have thoughts and ideas that are worthy of credit to God, learn to compare and associate them with all that happens in nature— the rising and the setting of the sun, the shining of the moon and the stars, and the changing of the seasons. You will begin to see that your thoughts are from God as well, and your mind will no longer be at the mercy of your impulsive thinking, but will always be used in service to God.

“We have sinned with our fathers…[and]…did not remember…” (Psalm 106:6‘7 ). Then prod your memory and wake up immediately. Don’t say to yourself, “But God is not talking to me right now.” He ought to be. Remember whose you are and whom you serve. Encourage yourself to remember, and your affection for God will increase tenfold. Your mind will no longer be starved, but will be quick and enthusiastic, and your hope will be inexpressibly bright.
WISDOM FROM OSWALD CHAMBERS

The root of faith is the knowledge of a Person, and one of the biggest snares is the idea that God is sure to lead us to success. from My Utmost for His Highest, March 19, 761 L

Ever Given Your Best & Gotten The Worst Back?

How To Find Relationships That Are Good For You,

And Avoid Those That Aren’t

By Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend

The wounds inflicted by an “unsafe” person can cut deep. If you’ve ever been in a relationship where you were used, abused, or abandoned, then SAFE PEOPLE is for you. It will help you make wise choices in relationships from friendship to romance. You’ll discover why good people can get tangled in bad relationships. And you’ll learn how to avoid your own mistakes and how to pick safe, healthy people for the friends you make and the company you keep.

Cloud and Townsend share expert insights that will help you:

               Correct things within you that jeopardize your relational security

               Learn the 20 traits of unsafe people

               Recognize what makes people trustworthy

Avoid unhealthy relationships

Form positive relationships

Become a safe person yourself.

Safe People will help you restructure your approach to relationships. Put an end to getting burned – and start enjoying the healthy, balanced relationships everyone wants and needs.

Contents

Part One: Unsafe People

Chapter One: What is an Unsafe Person?

Chapter Two: Personal Traits of Unsafe People

Chapter Three: Interpersonal Traits of Unsafe People

Chapter Four: How We Lost Our Safety

Part Two: Do I Attract Unsafe People

Chapter Five: Do I Have a “Safety Deficit?”

Chapter Six: Why Do I Choose Unsafe Relationships?

Chapter Seven: False Solutions

Chapter Eight: Why Do I Isolate Myself from People?

Part Three: Safe People

Chapter Nine: What Are Safe People

Chapter Ten: Why Do We Need Safe People?

Chapter Eleven: Where Are the Safe People?

Chapter Twelve. Learning How to Be Safe

Chapter Thirteen: Should I Repair or Replace?

Next time I will transplant you into the heart of Chapter Twelve, “Learning How to Be Safe.” Authors Cloud and Townsend, in their numerous books based on scripture and the shed blood on the cross of our resurrected Savior, Jesus Christ, providing us the redeeming insights to dispel/destroy, even decades of accumulated unresolved baggage that annihilates us spiritually. Walk into His Light TODAY!

You’re a major exception if this book will not bolster, or even, supercharge, the effectiveness of your current and future relationships! FYI, tonight ThriftBooks has 50+ used paperbacks of Safe People available for $4.99 each.

Until the next post….

TRULY  FREE: Breaking the Snares That So Easily Entangle

By Robert Morris, Author of “THE BLESSED LIFE” & “THE GOD I NEVER KNEW”

Although difficult to locate used copies of this 2015 book, I found Truly Free a helpful worthy read written by a transparent pastor geared to pointing men with prior baggage such as myself, to breaking the snares that may continue to so easily entangle us. Our beacon passage is from from Matthew 11:28-30 “Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

Now, listen to the same passage in today’s conversational paraphrased English from The Message:

“Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me. Watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.”

Introduction  (verbatim)

“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slaveryGalatians 5:1 NIV  

Their forgetfulness began in earnest on the fifteenth day of their second month of their new calendar. Out in the desert, however, most folks didn’t bother to keep of what day it was.

Mostly, everybody just noticed their sweat—how everybody stank the same bad way. They noticed the sand as it wedged its way into their sandals and between their toes and drifted into their eyes and nostrils with each step they took. They noticed the heat—how breath after breath, the desert air burned in their lungs.  

The Israelites were hitting the wall of desert reality.  

Already the cool water and palm trees of the oasis of Elim lay far behind them. The relief of shade from Mount Sinai lay in the shadowy distance. The promised land seemed so far ahead of them, they wondered if they’d ever arrive.  

All that stench and heat and dust and desert grime mixed together proved the perfect climate to birth forgetfulness. As recorded in Exodus 16, the grumblings on that fifteenth day of the second month since coming out of Egypt started out something like this:  

“Hey.” An Israelite wiped the sweat off his forehead. “What I wouldn’t give right now to be back sitting in the shade of my old house.”  

“Yeah,” said another, a faraway look in her eyes. “We really had it good back there, didn’t we?”  

A third chimed in. “Back in Egypt we sat around pots of meat and ate all the food we wanted. Remember all those fresh onions and garlic and leeks? So tasty!”  

They felt their mouths water, even in the arid heat.

And from there the grumbling erupted.  

How Bad It Really Was  

Did you catch what important truth the Israelites had forgotten?  

They’d been slaves!  

The Israelites had escaped bondage in Egypt through the power of God, but in the wilderness they were still imprisoned by their selective memory of life in Egypt

Back in Egypt they might have eaten fresh onions and garlic and leeks on rare occasions. But they had also labored from dawn to dusk every day under the unbending orders that they make bricks without straw. Egypt came complete with cruel taskmasters and whips and chains and shackles and wrenching poverty. All their baby boys had once been thrown into the Nile River.  

Repeatedly—desperately—the Israelites had cried out to God for a deliverer.  

Now they’d forgotten they had been in bondage.  

They’d also forgotten that God had answered their cry. God had sent a deliverer to lead them out of slavery.

But hold on a moment. Before we come down too hard on the Israelites, have you ever considered how susceptible we are today to do or at least lean toward the same thing?

This Present Egypt  

If we’re Christians, then the Lord has delivered us out of slavery. Through Christ’s work on the cross, Jesus has removed our despair and darkness and put in its place victory, strength, and freedom. The old is gone. The new has come. We are a new creation (2 Corinthians 5: 17). We never need to return to Egypt.  

And yet . . .  

A life of slavery still beckons to us. We find that our old, harmful thoughts are hard to shake. Our former, unhealthy habits are hard to break. Long-embedded patterns of shameful living continue to entangle us—day after day, month after month, even year after year.  

Some days we feel weighed down by those shackles. We long for the freedom to respond to God fully as the people He has created and redeemed us to be. But fear and heaviness and darkness surround us. We wonder where to turn.  

We need to recognize the reality and presence of the spiritual realm. We need to step fully into God’s plan to heal our broken world. We need to move into life and healing, purity, liberty, holiness, and truth.  

But how?  

Finally Free  

In the pages ahead, I want to explore with you a glorious truth—that the promise of being delivered from our slavery is a promise to be set free completely.  
Forget Egypt. You don’t ever want to return to your personal Egypt.  

The reality of being truly free is one you may not have explored fully before. A big problem for us is that evil still exists in the world today. Christ has conquered sin and death, yes, but in His infinite wisdom—for reasons that are often difficult for us to understand—the effects of evil are still permitted to exist. We can still be influenced by evil. We can still be oppressed by evil. We can even be controlled by evil. Even if we’re saved.  

In the chapters to come we are going to surface a need you may not have known you had. At this very moment there is scriptural evidence that you and I can be negatively influenced by evil. That same evil can entrap us and harm us, oppress us and hurt us, and generally make our lives difficult, even enslave us to harmful patterns of living we thought we had left behind.  

But we don’t want to dwell on evil in this book. You won’t hear prolonged stories of the bizarre, the cruel and unusual, or the weird. I won’t tell any stories that keep you awake at night or stories that sound as though they’re pulled from the tabloids.  

Instead, I want to dwell on the goodness and power and truth of Jesus Christ. That’s what this book is all about: how God sets us free. All authority has been given to Jesus (Matthew 28: 18). He has conquered death, hell, and evil (1 Corinthians 15: 54–56). He now reigns at God’s right hand and will reign forevermore (Acts 2: 33).  

The good news is that regardless of what difficulty you’re struggling with today, there is always hope. Sure, the temptation never quite goes away in this life. There is always a pull toward thoughts and actions that could cause us to become burdened again by a yoke of slavery (Galatians 5: 1 NASB). But you need to know—and live out fully—that you never need to return to Egypt. With Jesus Christ, you can be free at last, free forever, truly and finally free.  

If that sounds like something you long for, I invite you to keep reading. 
Robert Morris Dallas, Texas”

Contents

Introduction: Free At Last

Chapter One: Greater Is He

               Two: Three Big Warning Signs:

               Three: Beware the Chaldeans

               Four: Breaking the Snare of Pride

               Five: Breaking the Snare of Bitterness

               Six: Breaking the Snare of Greed

               Seven: Breaking the Snare of Lust

               Eight: Breaking the Snares in Your Mind

                              The Mind Is a Battlefield:

                              Strategy #1: Renewing Minds by Memorizing Scripture

                              Strategy # 2: Using God’s Word as a Spiritual Weapon

                             Strategy # 3: Meditating on the Word of God

               Nine: Breaking the Snares of Past Wounds

               Ten: A Prayer For Freedom

Appendix:    

Resources for You to Use

  • Making Sure You’re Born Again: Forgiven, Transformed, Empowered & Living in Daily Obedience as His Ambassadors Until Death Permits Retirement.
  • FAQ’s About Deliverance
  • Ministry of Deliverance and Corresponding Infilling of Holy Spirit
  • Further Reading for Maintaining Your Victory

“Redeeming Our Time? Are You Serious?”

redeeming the time, because the days are evil. Ephesians 5:16

When Katie Davis graduated from high school in America and volunteered to teach kindergarten in Uganda, she didn’t know she would one day become mother to 13 orphaned girls and teacher and provider for hundreds more. In her book Kisses from Katie, she describes what seems at times to be an overwhelming task – and her solution” “I began each day saying, ‘Okay Lord, what would you have me do today? . . .   I was walking through life one moment at a time, blown away by what God could do through me if I simply said yes.”

God has given us an eternal perspective so that we can look beyond the routines of life. Nevertheless, God has not revealed all of life’s mysteries. In Ecclesiastes 3:11, Solomon writes, “God has made everything appropriate in its time. He has also set eternity in our hearts, yet so that man will not find out the work which God has done from the beginning even to the end.” Perhaps to prevent us from becoming discouraged if we viewed too much too soon, so that we develop trust in His GPS to deliver exactly the resources we need just-in-time from His supply chains to accomplish His purposes.

Now getting older with limited energy, while considering the tasks of the day, to be honest, there are days I want to forget it all and crawl back into bed, but a small voice inside me says, “Merlin, you don’t have to do it all at once. Just put your feet on the floor and take the first step.” Usually the evening before, I’d already determined the most efficient order in which to tackle the tasks listed on my 3×5 card. So, all I have to do is execute the plan. First step though, even before checking the card, is always a time of alignment, communion and calibrating my spiritual GPS. Then I’m ready to hit the drive button!

Ideally, the best way to make the most of a life given as a gift from God is to make the most of today. God doesn’t expect us to plan for the entire future – just today. Consider how much good can be accomplished in just one day in the lives of the people God puts in our path TODAY!

When Paul wrote, “. . . redeeming the time,” he was talking about today, tomorrow, the day after – one day at a time. Why the focus on today? Because a day not redeemed is a day gone forever. And because a life is nothing more but a collection of days! Really!

Inspired and adapted from David Jeremiah’s devotional “Destinations: Your Journey with God” and Emilie Barnes “Minute Meditations For Women.”

Apostasy? What’s That? Something to Eat?

Chapter Five: “A Theological Prophecy—The Falling Away

From David Jeremiah’s book “Where Do We Go From Here?”

That Day will not come unless the falling away comes first.” 2 THESSALONIANS 2: 3

Last minute, I was compelled to include Ch. Five because I recall very little if any explicit teaching over the pulpit on Apostasy, but that is more of an admission of me not being attentive than it is such not being presented! I know full well I lost many of you the past week with these lengthy reads on content you that may rile you and that is ok with me; at least you know where the truth (you may say “my version”) can be found when needed or desired. My mission is only to present as I’m prompted.

Imagine writing your first book at age twenty-two and watching it land on bestseller lists everywhere. A few years ago, that happened to an American pastor. His book conveyed biblical advice about love and relationships, and it encouraged thousands of young people to make better choices. Here’s a quote from its pages: “The world takes us to a silver screen on which flickering images of passion and romance play, and as we watch, the world says, ‘This is love.’ God takes us to the foot of a tree on which a naked and bloodied man hangs and says, ‘This is love.’” 1

Those phrases pack a punch! It’s no wonder this pastor became known for his speaking, writing, and counseling, as well as for nearly two decades of pastoral ministry in a local church. But in 2019, he announced his marriage had come to an end. Then, in a follow-up post on Instagram, he disclosed something even more troubling:

I have undergone a massive shift in regard to my faith in Jesus. The popular phrase for this is “deconstruction,” the biblical phrase is “falling away.” By all the measurements that I have for defining a Christian, I am not a Christian. Many people tell me that there is a different way to practice faith and I want to remain open to this, but I’m not there now. 2

That cuts me to the heart, especially because he isn’t alone. Many others seem to be falling away from Christ and His gospel. I saw a recent op-ed with this title: “Everyone Is Leaving Christianity. Few Know Where They’re Going.” 3

This departure from biblical faith is happening so often that a new word has been coined. These defectors are no longer evangelicals; they are exvangelicals.

Why is that? And what does it mean?

This “falling away” is not a new phenomenon. Throughout history, many have taken up the banner of Christ only to lay it down again. Even the first generation of Christians faced this challenge.

Do you know about Demas? When Paul wrote to the Colossians and to Philemon, he sent them greetings from his coworker Demas, who was at his side (Col. 4: 14; Philem. 1: 24). Yet in his final letter, Paul told Timothy, “Demas has forsaken me, having loved this present world” (2 Tim. 4: 10).

Another book in the Bible is devoted to this topic—the short epistle of Jude, written by our Lord’s half-brother, the son of Joseph and Mary. It’s the next-to-the-last book of the Bible, and Jude stated his purpose succinctly: “To contend earnestly for the faith which was once for all delivered to the saints” (v. 3).

It helps me to realize the apostles faced the same problem of falling away we’re seeing today. Yet the trend toward apostasy seems to be accelerating in our times. I’m almost hesitant to read Christian news sites because I don’t want to hear of another pastor failing or another prominent believer rejecting the faith. Recent headlines aren’t encouraging, and neither are the statistics.

There are more than 72 million Millennials in America—almost a quarter of the population. 4 An increasingly large percentage of that generation has walked away from faith of any kind, choosing to identify as “religious nones.” In 2008, researchers noted that close to a third of Millennials (31.9 percent) described themselves as religiously unaffiliated. Just ten years later, that number was 42.7 percent. 5

There are more troubling numbers. Church membership in America has suffered a decades-long decline. When Gallup first measured US church membership in 1937, the number came in at 73 percent. Even in the early 1980s, more than 70 percent of American adults were church members. In the year 2000, it was 65 percent. By 2010, it was 59 percent. In 2020, it was 50 percent. Now less than half of Americans belong to a local church, with corresponding declines in regular church attendance. 6

But the core issue isn’t that people are falling away from church, or even falling away from faith. We’re talking about falling away from Jesus Himself. We’re talking about branches that cut themselves off from the vine. These are people who have—these words are stark—“ trampled the Son of God underfoot . . . treated as an unholy thing the blood of the covenant that sanctified them, and . . . insulted the Spirit of grace” (Heb. 10: 29 NIV).

Remember Judas the disciple? He’s the clearest example of apostasy in the Bible. He was among Jesus’ inner circle. He had greater access to Christ than almost any other person in his day—walking and talking with the Savior, witnessing the miracles, and watching lives be transformed. Yet Judas still fell away.

So did a pastor here in California. After several instances of publicly criticizing the Bible’s views on sexuality, this man was asked to resign from the church. He also lost his teaching positions at two Christian universities. As a result, he decided to live for a year without God. In his words, he planned to “try on” atheism as a New Year’s resolution.

“For the next 12 months I will live as if there is no God,” he wrote. “I will not pray, read the Bible for inspiration, refer to God as the cause of things or hope that God might intervene and change my own or someone else’s circumstances.” 7

At the end of his experiment, he officially rejected his lifelong belief, declaring on National Public Radio, “I don’t think that God exists.” 8

Again, this man didn’t simply fall away from the church and from the faith. He chose to abandon the Savior, and it left him with nothing except atheism—which, literally, is faith in nothing.

I’ve been appalled in recent years when would-be shepherds of God’s flock have questioned foundational elements of Christian doctrine, including:

               The Denials of End Time Apostates

                              Denial of God – 2 Tim.3:4-5

                              Denial of Christ – I John 4:3

                              Denial of Christ’s Return – 2 Peter 3:3-4

                              Denial of Faith – Jude 3-4

                              Denial of Sound Doctrine – 2 Tim. 4:3-4

                              Denial of the Separated Life – 2 Tim.3:1-7

                              Denial of Christian Liberty – 1 Tim.4:3-4

                              Denial of Morals – Jude 18

If Jude were alive today, he would take notice. So should we. But don’t despair. There’s hope even in the face of apostasy. God knows those who are His, and He will bring them home safely. Jesus said, “I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; neither shall anyone snatch them out of My hand. My Father, who has given them to Me, is greater than all; and no one is able to snatch them out of My Father’s hand” (John 10: 28–29). Paul expressed the same hope, declaring, “He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ” (Phil. 1: 6). And don’t forget Jude, who ended his book praising “Him who is able to keep you from stumbling, and to present you faultless before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy” (v. 24).

What Does This Mean?

To be clear, apostasy is not the same thing as atheism. By apostasy, I’m not referring to people in general who reject Christianity or deny the truth of the gospel. Apostasy doesn’t reflect the rise of atheism in and of itself, nor does it apply to everyone who chooses religious systems other than Christianity.

Instead, the concept of falling away has a narrower focus. It applies specifically to apparent Christians—to those who claim to follow Jesus, but then turn their backs on Him. Here is the best definition I have found for the term apostasy:

The Greek word for apostasy is found only twice in the New Testament (Acts 21: 21, II Thess. 2: 3). . . . The word means ‘a falling away from,’ a deserting or turning from a position or view formerly held . . . Spiritual apostasy occurs when a person who once claimed to be a believer, departs from what he formerly professed to believe. An apostate is not one who was saved and then lost his or her salvation. An apostate, though having claimed to be a believer, never was saved in the first place. 9

Every apostate is an unbeliever, but not every unbeliever is an apostate. Do you see the difference? There are many people who have never had the opportunity to hear the gospel, even in part. They are unbelievers because they have not heard. But an apostate is well acquainted with the gospel. He or she knows more than enough to be saved and, yes, has even professed to follow Christ. But at some point, they turn their backs on the Savior. Their commitment wasn’t real, and their decision wasn’t authentic. Those who are Christians in pretense are non-Christians in reality, and sooner or later reality wins.

Why am I talking about this theme of falling away? Because the proliferation of apostasy is an important, but often overlooked, piece to the end times puzzle. As we know from Scripture, one of the signs of the imminent return of Christ is a rising number of self-proclaimed Christians who ultimately reject Christ.

The Bible says, “Now, brethren, concerning the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ and our gathering together to Him, we ask you, not to be soon shaken in mind or troubled, either by spirit or by word or by letter, as if from us, as though the day of Christ had come. Let no one deceive you by any means; for that Day will not come unless the falling away comes first, and the man of sin is revealed, the son of perdition (2 Thess. 2: 1–3, emphasis added).

This is indeed a prophecy about tomorrow that has implications for us today. This falling away that Paul was writing about is not just some gradual defection from Christ. Paul called this the falling away. This will be a specific, recognizable departure from the faith during the tribulation.

Let’s bring it a little closer. According to the Bible, the tribulation period will begin immediately after the rapture of the church. Paul told the Thessalonians that the tribulation could not begin until the Antichrist was revealed and the falling away occurred. Here is the order of events: Christ comes to rapture His saints to heaven. At that moment, tribulation breaks out all over the earth and the Antichrist is unmasked. Finally, at the same time, the falling away occurs.

We know from our study of prophecy that the rapture is a sudden signless event. Nothing needs to happen for Christ to return for His own. But here is what we are prone to miss if we do not think carefully. If the rapture could happen at any moment, the “falling away” could also happen at any moment. In fact, what we have been describing, what is happening right now, could very well be the front edge of the “falling away” that Paul was explaining to the Thessalonian believers.

The point I’m making is this: we see the acceleration of people falling away happening now. Apostasy is on the rise even as you read this. To me, it’s another sign that we’re moving toward the end with increasing speed. Paul wrote his words about “the falling away” to the church in Thessalonica, which was facing heavy levels of persecution. The Christians there believed the last days were upon them.

Paul told them not to be troubled, for all Christians will encounter difficulties, even persecution. The thing to watch for, Paul said, was increased apostasy. That is a predictive sign of the approach of Christ’s return and of God’s final judgment. Before the return of Christ, a great falling away will occur.

I hope to see a great spiritual revival before the rapture. It can happen. But there’s no specific evidence in Scripture that a spiritual awakening must occur before Christ comes for His church. On the contrary, Paul’s words in 2 Thessalonians 2: 3 reveal that unbelief will continue to rise on a global scale, including increased apostasy within the church, until a tipping point is reached prior to the day of God’s judgment.

John said, “It is the last hour; and as you have heard that the Antichrist is coming, even now many antichrists have come, by which we know that it is the last hour. They went out from us, but they were not of us; for if they had been of us, they would have continued with us” (1 John 2: 18–19).

In His Olivet Discourse, Jesus said, “And because lawlessness will abound, the love of many will grow cold” (Matt. 24: 12). How can this happen? How could anyone who has tasted the goodness of Christ ever choose to fall away? There are many reasons, of course, but let’s focus three specific ones.

Some Fall Away Because They Are 1.) Deceived; 2.) Disillusioned; or 3.) Distracted

Where Do We Go From Here?

It’s easy to become discouraged when we consider the prevalence of apostasy in the church and in our world today, and if we’re not careful, we can begin to think of apostasy almost as a disease, something that can be “caught” like a cold or the flu.

But apostasy isn’t caught like an illness. It’s not something that happens to you out of the blue. It’s a choice.  A decision you make based on your on values and priorities.

So what can we do to protect ourselves from that ever happening to us? How can we make sure that we are never among those who fall away. I’d like to suggest three things you can do to immunize yourself against this danger.

  1. Examine Yourself. 2 Cor. 13:5 Paul wrote: “examine yourselves as to whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves. Do you not know yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you?”
  2. Encourage Yourself. We learn this technique from David who came to a very disheartening moment in his life while fleeing from King Saul according to 1 Samuel 30:6, “David encouraged himself in the Lord his God.”
  3. Exercise Yourself. Finally, if you want to stay confident and strong, it is important to keep growing in your faith, and that requires exercise.

According to July 29, 2018 Business Insider, LeBron James spends about $ 1.5 million each year caring for his body. Where does the money go? LeBron keeps his home gym updated. He’s said to have replicated the Miami Heat and Cleveland Cavalier’s gyms in his home. He has a cryochamber in his home, which uses liquid nitrogen to give him something akin to an ice bath. He also has a hyperbaric chamber that puts more oxygen in his body. He doesn’t hesitate to hire and pay for the best trainers, massage therapists, and chefs in the world. He eats only the best and healthiest foods. And he invests in compression gear to wear on airplanes.

LeBron spares no expense to keep his body working like a sleek machine. His former teammate Mike Miller said, “He puts a lot of money behind taking care of his body. A lot of people think it’s a big expense, but that big expense has allowed him to make a lot more money for a long period of time.” 15

If a basketball player is that concerned about taking care of his body, shouldn’t you and I be diligent to take care of our souls? The Bible says, “For bodily exercise profits a little, but godliness is profitable for all things, having promise of the life that now is and of that which is to come” (1 Tim. 4: 8).

Stagnant faith is the devil’s playground, and he will fill your heart and mind with doubts. Just when you really need God, it will occur to you that He has not been very important to you of late.

Andrew Murray, in Holiest of All, wrote this powerful paragraph:

“In commerce, in study, in war, it is so often said there is no safety but in advance. To stand still is to go back. To cease effort is to lose ground. To slacken the pace, before the goal is reached, is to lose the race. The only sure mark of our being true Christians, of our really loving Christ, is the deep longing and the steady effort to know more of Him. Tens of thousands have proved that to be content with beginning well is but the first step on a backward course, that ends in losing all. . . . Let us press on. 16”

The apostle Peter said, “Therefore, brethren, be even more diligent to make your call and election sure, for if you do these things you will never stumble” (2 Peter 1: 10). “These things” refers back to eight character qualities listed in verses 5–7: faith, virtue, knowledge, self-control, perseverance, godliness, brotherly kindness, and love. Could Peter have been more emphatic? If we keep growing in these traits, we’ll never stumble.

Now, let me make one thing clear. When Peter said we will never stumble, he didn’t mean we will never make a mistake or commit a sin. He meant we’ll never shipwreck our faith. We’ll never fall away from Christ.

Earlier I mentioned the book of Jude, a small one-page letter near the end of the Bible. It’s all about the dangers of false teachers and the temptation to fall away. Reading Jude can help us make the right choices when facing pressure. His words are critical for those of us living in a culture and in a church defined by increasing apostasy.

Jude wrote to Christians experiencing double pressure. They faced extreme persecution, and they were under spiritual attack from heresies of all kinds. Most of the influential leaders of the early church had been martyred—including Peter, Paul, and James—which left both churches and individual Christians feeling vulnerable.

In the darkness of that moment, Jude’s epistle provided a ray of hope. In just two verses near the end of his tiny epistle, Jude explained to Christians how to remain committed to Christ during a time of increased apostasy: “But you, beloved, building yourselves up on your most holy faith . . . keep yourselves in the love of God” (vv. 20–21). Jude was speaking to Christians, and the phrase building yourselves up conveys the idea of continuation. Jude was not speaking of a one-time event, but rather a life-long process. In other words, Jude told us to keep building ourselves up.

You will notice that these passages use the word yourself or himself. You must not wait for someone else to do this for you. This is your responsibility.

You must continue to cultivate your relationship with the Lord. Your walk with God is not static. You are either growing in Him or you are beginning to grow cold toward Him.

This is why God warned the church in Ephesus, “Nevertheless I have this against you, that you have left your first love. Remember therefore from where you have fallen; repent and do the first works” (Rev. 2: 4–5).

Examine yourself, encourage yourself, and exercise yourself in the Lord. And most of all just keep going and growing. Don’t stop! Don’t look back! Just keep walking with the Lord.

“Chapter 5: A Theological Prophecy: The Falling Away

 Bibliography

1. Joshua Harris, I Kissed Dating Goodbye (Colorado Springs, CO: Multnomah Books, 2003), 67.

2. Caleb Parke, “Well-Known Christian Author, Purity Advocate, Renounces His Faith: ‘I Hope You Can Forgive Me,’” Fox News, July 29, 2019, https:// www.foxnews.com/ faith-values/ christian-author-joshua-harris-kissed-dating-goodbye-faith.”