But it’s not just about the long term, it’s about the everyday. Love is not built in moments of passion alone. It’s built in consistency. Does he make an effort to check in on you, not just when he wants something, but simply because he cares? Does he listen when you speak truly absorbing what you say rather than waiting for his turn to respond? Does he make space for you in his schedule, even when he’s busy? A man who prioritizes you will make sure that you feel valued in his presence.
He won’t leave you guessing about where you stand. He won’t make you feel like you’re fighting for scraps of his attention. And if you find yourself constantly questioning whether you’re important to him, that itself is an answer.
Many people fall into the trap of excusing neglect in relationships. They rationalize it telling themselves, he’s just bad at communication or going through a lot right now. And while it’s true that life can be complicated and people have different ways of expressing love, there is one fundamental truth that remains.
When a man values something, he takes care of it. He protects it. He nurtures it, and he does not allow it to feel neglected. Now, here’s where this becomes even more critical. A man’s willingness to prioritize you is directly linked to his respect for you. Love without respect is. unsustainable. If a man sees you as truly valuable, he will treat you as such, he won’t take you for granted. He won’t expect you to always be available while he remains distant and detached. Instead, he will ensure that his actions reflect his appreciation for you, not just in words, but in how he structures his life around the relationship.
And this is why self-respect is crucial on your end as well. If you allow yourself to accept a position of constant secondary importance in someone’s life, you are reinforcing the idea that it is acceptable. If you tolerate inconsistent effort, you are teaching him that minimal effort is sufficient. Love cannot thrive in an environment where one person is always compromising, and the other is always benefiting.
So, what’s the takeaway here? It’s simple. If a man loves and adores you, you won’t have to question whether you matter to him. He will show you day in and day out through his actions, his presence, and his choices. And if you find yourself constantly having to convince him to make space for you in his life, then you’re not his priority. You’re an option, and you should never settle for being an option.
One of the most telling signs that a man truly loves and adores you is the way he protects you, not just physically but emotionally, psychologically, and even spiritually. Protection in its deepest sense is not about dominance or control. It’s about care. It’s about the conscious effort to shield you from harm; to create an environment where you feel safe, valued and supported.
This instinct to protect is deeply wired into men. Historically, men have been the guardians of the tribe, the defenders of the home, the ones who stood between danger and those they loved. And while the threats may look different in the modern world; no wild animals, no enemy tribes at the gates, the instinct remains. A man who loves you will not be indifferent to your suffering. He will not allow you to face life’s battles alone while he remains passive; he will be invested in your well-being, in your emotional security, in the quality of your life.
But let’s make something clear. This kind of protection is not about solving all of your problems for you. A good man doesn’t see his woman as helpless. He sees her as capable. He doesn’t take away her autonomy or make her dependent on him. Instead, he stands beside her ready to bear some of the burden when the weight of the world becomes too much. He is there, not to rescue her, but to support her.
This is evident in how he responds when you’re in distress. When life throw’s challenges your way, whether it’s stress at work, difficulties with friends or family, or internal struggles with self-doubt, does he show up for you? Does he take the time to listen to understand to reassure you that you’re not alone? Or does he dismiss your concerns, minimize your emotions, or make you feel as though your struggles are an inconvenience to him? A man who loves you will not let you suffer in silence. He will notice when you’re in pain, even when you try to hide it, and he will do what he can to make things easier for you.
And let’s not forget emotional protection. This is where many men fail without realizing it. A man who truly adores you will not play with your emotions. He will not manipulate you, make you feel insecure, or engage in mind games that leave you questioning his commitment.
Instead, he will offer you stability. He will communicate with honesty and clarity. He will not make you feel like love is something you have to earn more that his affection is conditional on your ability to please him. This emotional protection also means safeguarding your confidence and self-worth. A loving man does not belittle the woman he adores. He does not make cruel jokes at her expense. He does not criticize her in a way that erodes her self-esteem.
On the contrary, he lifts her up. He speaks to her with respect. He acknowledges her strength and even when he has to address a problem or conflict, he does in a way that is constructive, not destructive.
And then there’s the social aspect of protection. When a man loves a woman, he will not tolerate disrespect toward her. He won’t stand by while others demean her; whether it’s friends, family members, or even strangers. He will make it clear through both words and actions that she is someone he values deeply and that he expects others to treat her with the same respect.
A man’s protective nature is also evident in the way he plans for the future. If he truly sees you as his partner, he will think beyond the present moment.
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CLUE #3: He does This EVEN WHEN YOU’RE NOT AROUND
PRAYER REMINDERS:
Post 4/19/25: Aron Lee Ralston; that Aron hears Christ’s call & fulfills his life’s destinies for himself, his children – Leon & Elisabetta, as well as his life’s motto, “There are possibilities in our problems, transformation in our trauma, and blessings in our boulders” and the His best for them is yet to come!
Post 04/21/25: Glendon, Simon and the persecuted Christians in Nigeria, Africa, and Asia..
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