This is the second post in a five post series on The Intracasies of Male Female Relationships. FYI, this “wordy” document is a 6400 words in length, averaging 1280 words per post; some longer, some shorter. And yes, I’m sure it could be powerfully condensed, but I have not the time, inclination and especially, the skill to spiritually mesh the missing spiritual dimensions. Any volunteers? It possesses a worthy start for someone to build on…
Love isn’t about occasional intensity. It’s about sustained commitment, and that means showing up when it’s difficult, not just when it’s easy. This is where so many relationships falter. People mistake intensity for love. They mistake desire for devotion, but real love doesn’t manifest in dramatic moments alone. It’s in the quiet, unremarkable acts of care and attention, the way he checks in on you after a stressful day; the way he supports you in your ambitions, the way he listens not just to the words you say, but to the emotions behind them.
And here’s something else to consider. A man who truly loves you doesn’t just align his actions with his words when things are good. He does it when challenges arise. He doesn’t withdraw when you need him most. He doesn’t become defensive or dismissive when you express your concerns. Instead, he engages. He takes responsibility. He recognizes that love isn’t just about feeling good. It’s about doing the work required to make the relationship strong. Love in its healthiest form requires integrity, and integrity is the alignment of words and actions. If a man tells you he loves you, but his behavior causes you to feel uncertain, confused, or undervalued, then his words are meaningless.
Love should not be a source of deep anxiety. It should not leave you in a constant state of questioning. When a man truly adores you, you will know it, not because he says it, but because everything he does affirms it. At the end of the day, love isn’t just about attraction or chemistry. It’s about trust. And trust is built through reliability through the certainty that a person means what they say and follows through on it; that’s the foundation of any meaningful relationship when you can trust, not just a person’s words, but their commitment to those words. That’s when you know love is real.
So, ask yourself, are his actions telling the same story as his words? If they are, then you are with a man who truly loves you. If they aren’t, then it’s time to stop listening to what he says and start believing what he shows you.
When a man truly loves and adores a woman, one of the clearest indicators is his willingness to prioritize her, not just in the grand, sweeping gestures that society romanticizes, but in the daily, often mundane aspects of life. Love in its most meaningful form isn’t a fleeting feeling or a dramatic proclamation. It’s a continual act of choosing someone over and over again, even when it’s inconvenient. People often misunderstand what prioritization really means in a relationship. It’s not about grandiosity. It’s not about constant attention or unhealthy dependence.
It’s about where he chooses to invest his energy, his time, and his presence. A man who adores you isn’t just physically present. He is mentally and emotionally engaged, and that engagement isn’t conditional. It doesn’t disappear when life becomes stressful, or when distractions arise. It remains because he sees you as an essential part of his world. Think about it. We always make time for what we truly value. If something is important to us, whether it’s our career, our health, or a deeply held personal goal, we structure our lives around it. We don’t let it become an afterthought. We don’t engage with it only when it is convenient.
The same principle applies to love if a man consistently makes excuses for why he can’t show up, if he repeatedly allows work, hobbies, or external pressures to take precedence over his commitment to you. Then you are not his priority, and that is something you need to recognize before you invest any deeper.
Now, there’s an important distinction to make here. Prioritization doesn’t mean obsession. It doesn’t mean abandoning everything else in life. A strong man, a man who is truly capable of loving deeply, still has his own goals, his own aspirations, his own purpose beyond the relationship. In fact, that’s what makes him worth being with in the first place. But when he loves you, he integrates you into that purpose. He considers your needs, your desires, your well-being, not as an afterthought, but as a crucial part of his decision-making process, you see this in the way he plans for the future. Does he include you in his long-term vision? Does he seek your input when making big decisions? Does he make an effort to align his path with yours in a way that allows both of you to grow. These are the questions that truly reveal where you stand in his life.
NEXT UP: Clue Two: This Unexpected Action, Consistency, Proves His Love
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